so now I'm being stalked on GreekChat? - Page 2

Tom Earp · #1 08-08-2003, 06:34 PM

Once again svergie you come out of the closet as the Truasst that you seem to be! Dah FM!

Get a restraining Order, even though it is as good as the paper it is written on, it leaves a trail and is a legal Document.

Document: When you get an email, call, or sighting, Keep a log! Keep email, and phone messages!

This person Has to served before all of this kicks in! Then then can Nail his ASS! Stalking has become a very big thing and The Courts come down hard on it!

Just not only the Local Police get into this , so do the Feds! Of course they are:

Can you say F OFF and say it with a smile, I have Freinds and will have you OFFED! Lime pits are great so I hear?

valkyrie · #2 08-08-2003, 07:20 PM

I don't know anything about your financial situation, but it might be worth talking to an attorney. In Illinois, there is an organization called Prairie State Legal Services, and they help people who don't have a lot of money in situations like yours. You may be able to get an Order of Protection (or whatever it's called in your state) so it's probably worth checking into. Maybe there is some type of legal organization near you that can help you. You also might want to call a domestic violence hotline -- I know that isn't what you're experiencing, but they might be able to point you in the right direction.

Be careful, and I wish you the best.

Tom Earp · #3 08-08-2003, 10:01 PM

Well, BUBBA Boy, Take your best shot! If you promote yourself as an ASS then consider your self one!

You are an immature little snipit that in a Jewish point of life is thrown in the trash!

You are an obnoxish weed that should be exterminated. You have already been found out, but we are waiting to get you in a position to sue your Socks Off!

You are the Crud of print Media that is abhorant to the sane world instead of the Blue Hairs who beleive this Tripe!

Jeeze, just who in your pea brain do you think you can out smart!

You are Pathetic!

You are a Sorry Individual!

Go Ahead Maked My Day! Cop talk Scuz Ball, scrodum Guts, Sleeze Bag!

You are Rude Crude and Totally socially unexceptibal!

Okay, does a DICK make it plain!

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #4 08-09-2003, 12:01 AM

He's left off a little bit... I haven't had any voicemails today, which means he's not leaving messages (not that he's not calling. My phone doesn't keep track of who called.) And no e-mails, although I blocked his address. I'm not sure if he knows they're not getting through to me or not... does anyone know what happens to e-mails sent to an address that blocked you? Do they bounce back, or does he just think I'm getting them and don't mind what he's saying?

Unfortunately I got kicked off today from my AIM screenname... it said I'd signed on at another location. Then I remembered I had my password saved on his computer -- mine had been down for a couple months in the spring, and he was nice enough to let me use his for awhile. I'm going to save it, but will it save it to his computer, too?

What does everyone think of having my dad answer the phone, if he does call again? I realize it might be childish, to involve my parents -- but I'm really starting to get nervous, and I thought it might send the message home that I'm tired of dealing with him. I haven't actually asked my dad yet. If y'all don't think it's a good idea, I don't want to worry him unncessarily.

by the way, it means more to me than I can say to see you all back me up like this. I know it's just the internet and all, but I really do feel like there's a bond there. Probably pretty ridiculous, but it doesn't hurt anyone, so why not?

AXJules · #5 08-09-2003, 12:20 AM

Sweetie usually if you block an address (or do anything to keep an email from getting to you ) it is returned and the sender gets a message saying it's undeliverable.

It sounds like he's signing onto your AIM screenname. Get a new name, and I'd message your friends and let them know that the old name isn't you anymore. You may think he wouldn't pretend to be you, but it sounds like this guy is getting kinda looney.

If he does call again, there's nothing wrong with having your dad answer the phone. You don't have to tell him the situation if you don't want to- just say its a friend who always wants to hang out and he's annoying you.

PM_Mama00 · #6 08-09-2003, 09:56 AM

Awww sweety I wish I knew what to say. It sounds like this guy is pretty serious about just buggin the hell out of you. Do you think he'd ever try to do something harmful to you? If so, then take all the precautions you can. He could just be wanting to annoy you for the heartache that he's goin through right now. But if he doesn't stop soon, then he's a straight up psycho.

Anyways, good luck with him and hopefully everything works out! LIOB!

swissmiss04 · #7 08-09-2003, 10:00 AM

If you change your password on your PC then it will not be saved at any other locations at which you might have used it. I know this from personal experience.

And it's not at all childish to involve your parents if safety is involved. I'm sure your parents know of the situation. You wouldn't even have to lie about who it is you're trying to avoid. Parents, no matter what your age, are always there for you and can be surprisingly understanding. After my accident a few months ago they took me home for a week to care for me. You just do what you gotta do. It's better to have fears of looking like a dork (which you don't) than to fear for your life. I so feel for you and I hope that you take some of the advice (mine and others') that you get. We are all here for you.

lionlove · #8 08-09-2003, 11:30 AM

Hey sweetie, big sisterly hug to you. Change the password on IM/Email and anything else he can access and it won't work on his computer. I know that from experience.

*hugs*
LIOB

mhj1113 · #9 08-12-2003, 12:31 AM

WOW!!!!!!! Can you believe some people???? I haven't talked to him since he is not working with me now. I feel sorry for you. Let us know how it all goes.

MH

adpishan · #10 08-12-2003, 12:45 AM

Let me tell you, I worked in the legal field for years and I know that you need that paper trail. If things get worse you are going to need some proof. I know that in the county that I worked in Temperary Restraining Orders were free and there were people at the courts to help you. PLEASE look into that. You need protection... one of my sisters has a restraining order on some guy and it has helped. Also, if at anytime he violates the restraining order you need to call the police no matter what. You never know how one judge or another will look at your case. So if you have all avenues covered then you have nothing to worry about.

Good luck!!!!

SigmaChiGuy · #11 08-12-2003, 10:29 AM

It appears as though this ass-bag is overdue for a severe beating. $50.00 and I am in. Really though, call the cops. He is obviously not responding to your hints, get the police involved and if he has any common sense at all, he will let it die.

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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
Just for the record, I didn't do anything to this guy except break up with him.

I certainly didn't cheat on him. Not sure if he actually thinks I cheated on him, because it occured to me that if a guy cheated on *me*, the last thing I'd do is try to keep in contact with him.

His e-mails and phone messages are really.... inflammatory. Do I continue to allow him to leave messages? I'd started picking up & hanging up when he called -- just so I woudln't have to hear the awful messages. Is that egging him on?

I did, though, block his e-mail and his IM. I'm kind of at a loss... he's in another city about 90 mi from me, so I don't think I'm actually at risk, it's more of just a harassment issue. I'm pretty good at keeping personal stuff personal, but people at my work are starting to ask me what's wrong, and it's affecting my new relationship because I'm so anxious all the time.