Some parents dont watch their kids. - Page 2

xok85xo · #1 08-01-2003, 05:53 PM

ugh..yesterday at work the wife of one of the salesmen brought in their two kids and just let them run amuck...the kids were literally running around the office and screaming.

swissmiss04 · #2 08-01-2003, 06:05 PM

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Originally posted by lifesaver
This is gonna sound so dick, but I see the kid running, not looking, and LET them hit me, bounce off and start wailing. That gets the parents attention, then I say in a concerned voice to the parents, "Could you parent? Even for just a minute? Things liek this prolly wouldnt happen." THen walk the PHUCK off.

Lifesaver!!! You've inspired me. As we speak, I'm suiting up in combat gear to fend off the evil monster Kidwithbadparents!

Seriously tho, I might just do that next time. Maybe it would teach the kid that indeed dumb actions have nasty consequences. But I will make sure he's not gravely injured before I walk off.

Shine · #3 08-01-2003, 06:58 PM

My biggest pet peeve is in restaurants. These parents that just let their kids be obnoxious, standing up in the booth, climbing up the back, or crawling around under the table. Then there are the kids that are banging on the table or their cup with a fork and throwing food everywhere. And these aren't babies, these are 5 and 6 year old kids. I know when I was a kid, my mom had my ass in the seat eating my food quietly.

What is WITH parents these days?

Lady Pi Phi · #4 08-01-2003, 07:05 PM

I don't know why some parents let their children misbehave. Some of the things I see kids do today, I would have had my a$$ whopped if my parents ever caught me doing anything like what some kids do.
I was in the car with my father and we were driving behind a family. My dad and I were talking, and in the back seat of the car infront was a litle girl,w ho couldn't have been older than 5 was sticking her tongue out at us and holding up her middle finger. I was appaled at the behaviour of this girl. I would have had a beat down if my father had saw me doing that. I get yelled at now if I accidently curse in front of my parents. I was so disgusted by this girl and her parents. What are they teaching her (or not teaching her). Not only was this girl rude, she was crawling all over the backseat of a moving vehicle with no seatbelt on. If there was an accident she could have been seriously injured or even killed.

Sometimes I want to smack the parents for have such obnoxious children.

IheartMATT806 · #5 08-01-2003, 07:52 PM

I dont have so much of a problem when parents let their kids wander around stores or what not..(kids are kids and well i didnt really pay much mind to my parents then either) BUT the thing i dont get is when parents let their little kids lose at the beach as if the lifeguards are supposed to babysit their kids. That is one of the things that pisses me off the most!! ahhhhhh

ALSO since im one the subject it pisses me off to see parents with kids on "leach-like" thingys!! If they wanted that kind of control they should have gotten a damn DOG!

Jill1228 · #6 08-01-2003, 08:27 PM

I work in retail too and it trips me out to see how some of these parents let their kids run around and "show out". My momma woulda whuppped my azz!

Shuddering at the memory of my mom whuppin me in the middle of the store...it was the last time I acted a fool in a store!

CatStarESP4 · #7 08-01-2003, 09:04 PM

My $0.02 here (maybe more).

In my old apartment complex (a co-op, to top it off), the is a little park for the parents to bring their children, but they have to cross a street to get there. A lot of the parents don't want to do that and let their kids play in the garden. These rugrats have destroyed flowers and shrubbery, left rubbish on the benches and have made so much noise. What was even worse, they would run around the hallway and make so much noise while people wanted peace and tranquility. Several of the neighbors have complained about it, but the parents said they didn't want to, for some idiotic reason, cross over the street with their urchins to play there.

When I was working as a legal secretary, one of my responsibilities was to accept and begin processing legal documents. One day, a young father came to serve the company legal documents and he brought along his young child. I had to call someone from another office to figure out what to do with the document. All of a sudden the kid gets cranky and is getting on my nerves while I was on the phone. I was on the verge of having an nervous breakdown or a heart attack. My boss tried to calm the child and me down. After they were gone, I tried to calm down.

Just recently I was in San Diego, and one of the places we went to was Sea World. I was in line to look at the fishes when a girl cut me off. No apologies or saying these two words 'excuse me'. I was enraged, and wondering what happened to ettiquette and social graces.

Kids are at their worst in malls, dept. stores, restaurants, and with their peers. I know we have seen incidents of screaming and crying kids around.

I am not sure if I want kids or not. If I do, they will taught to behave and not have a hissy fit when they don't get their way.

pinkyphimu · #8 08-01-2003, 10:56 PM

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Originally posted by IheartMATT806

ALSO since im one the subject it pisses me off to see parents with kids on "leach-like" thingys!! If they wanted that kind of control they should have gotten a damn DOG!

actually, most parents use those to protect their children. there are lots of kids who just RUN no matter where they are. of course, they don't look for cars or for other dangers. a friend of mine said her parents used one for her when she was little bc she never stopped running! and i work with several children who are "bolters," basically, they will be walking along for and whatever reason, just take off in another direction!!! if their parents didn't use those leashes...they probably would have been hit by a car and killed by now!

33girl · #9 08-01-2003, 11:42 PM

I agree...I hate the leashes too, but if you must have one for a hyperactive bolting child, get the ones that attach at the wrist. The "harness" ones that go around the child's chest are ghastly...they give me Mommie Dearest flashbacks.

IheartMATT806 · #10 08-02-2003, 12:07 AM

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Originally posted by pinkyphimu
actually, most parents use those to protect their children. there are lots of kids who just RUN no matter where they are. of course, they don't look for cars or for other dangers. a friend of mine said her parents used one for her when she was little bc she never stopped running! and i work with several children who are "bolters," basically, they will be walking along for and whatever reason, just take off in another direction!!! if their parents didn't use those leashes...they probably would have been hit by a car and killed by now!

I will have to diagree with you on that one. Although in the cases in which a child's life is in danger from being hit by a car, then in all honestly I can see where these harness like "things" can AND should be used. BUT im talking about the times when im walking in the mall and I see a mother with a "leach" on her child. The child is in no way in harm of being hit by a car..this is just another case of somone being completly lazy enough to be pulled by their child rather than taking their hand or holding them while shopping. In THOSE cases is such behavior completly un-called for. The parents should take on the responbility to watch their kids NOT WALK THEM!! GET A DAMN DOG IF YOU WANT TO DO THAT SHIT!! End of story: that is a horrible thing to do and I think it looks cheap on the parents behalf!

JohnsDGsweethrt · #11 08-02-2003, 02:48 AM

Kids running wild here is out of control. I just love it when the parents drop their 6 year olds off at movies like Pirates of the Caribbean, X2, and The Hulk and the kids are running all over the place and are up and down out of their seats and never watch the movie. Hello some of these are rated R movies! Does a 3 year old need to see The Matrix Reloaded? Last night someone brought a newborn to the movie and wouldn't take the kid out when it started crying! For the Love of God what is wrong with people?!?

AOIIalum · #12 08-02-2003, 10:21 AM

Disclaimer: I never used harnesses, but did need the wrist leash for a while with one of my guys.

If you have a child who does the duck, run and disappear thing, the various types child harnesses are a big help. Same goes for the child who needs a little physical reminder to maintain composure in everyday life. Not every child physically or mentally is capable to be a compliant angel in public. No, it's not for every child--but if you are blessed with a child who needs the extra reminders or extra safety, the harnesses allow you to experience the outside world in a safer capacity. If you've ever witnessed your child or any child break away from his/her family and almost get killed, child harnesses aren't such a bad option. It's not a black and white thing, folks--just like people with Handicapped parking access who don't "Look" handicapped and most definitely are. Just because a child doesn't look "different", it doesn't mean that they aren't. (/end of child harness mini-rant)

Another thing to toss out--I was a child of the "Raise your child in fear!" generation. Got spanked and reprimanded in public plenty of times, even though it usually took just one look to scare me to death, the joys of being a young child in the 1960s.

Folks, in this day and age, there are too many people who won't hesitate to inform authorities if you are "abusing" a child in public. I was turned in to store authorities once for trying to restrain my child (he kept climbing out of the buckle/strap restraint in the grocery basket and attempting to climb out, I kept re-buckling him, he kept fussing and then screaming, hopefully well-meaning stranger reported me.) From what ya'll are saying, I shouldn't have restrained him in the first place and when he acted up just spanked his rear end. If I had done that, I would have had my children taken away and been thrown in jail. Or, I should have stayed home until he was old enough to behave. Sorry folks, he's almost 11 and I'd still be home with him, because that's just how this child is wired. He's grown out of a lot of it, thankfully, but not every parent with such a child is so blessed.

It's just not that easy to raise a child, and no parents are perfect. When you live in our current society with it's quite restrictive opinions about child abuse (come on folks, there's abuse and there's keeping your child healthy and ALIVE!) Good luck to those of you who may be parents one day, and have the strength to make the choices best for your child and your family--and don't give a darn about those who do not or can not understand.

Christin

swissmiss04 · #13 08-02-2003, 01:09 PM

My dad (a child of the 50's) was tied to the clothesline if his mother was outside in the garden or whatever. Apparently it was emotionally traumatic. He never used leashes on me or my sis, and thankfully never had to. Whenever he sees a kid in a harness or on a leash, he whistles "How Much Is That Doggie In the Window". I guess it's his way of dealing with it.

jharb · #14 08-02-2003, 01:29 PM

I see your point AOII Alum, but at the same point I work at Pottery Barn Kids. We have toys and things, but they are displays and not to be played with. It's supposed to look like a child's bedroom in the store, not actually be one. If it's a rainy day then parents bring their kids in the store to play. These kids don't just play nicely either, we had these big jumping balls that were blown up as a display and I come back to the area where they are and there are two kids beating the ISHT out of each other with them. In that case the mom had gone to the next store and told them to play in ours!

That isn't a rare instance either. Stuff like that happens all the time. Kids end up breaking our displays and we have to keep putting out more. Our store doesn't have a "you break it you buy it" policy and half the time we are so swamped at the registers that we can't tell who it is that broke whatever it is. I'm not saying that kids shouldn't come in the store, but the parents should teach the children not to play with things in a manner as that they get broken. The parents should have control to some extent so that the kids aren't throwing things or breaking things.

aephi alum · #15 08-02-2003, 02:03 PM

I was never leashed as a child. Not with a physical leash, anyway - but mom had the "invisi-leash" going - "get back here right this instant or else!" I knew she'd follow through on the "or else", so I got back there!

I think wrist leashes have their place. If you have a little kid who likes to run off into crowds or traffic, or you're going to an unusually crowded location, or you have 3-4 kids of varying ages to keep track of, it's probably safest that the little one be "attached" to you lest s/he get lost, hit by a car, kidnapped, etc. But a kid should not be leashed as a matter of course. Nor do I like the harness leashes - you wouldn't put a dog or cat in a harness (unless it's a seeing-eye dog, but that's different) so how can you do it to your own child?