is this ok

[rocketaxid]

Originally posted by momoftwo
I don't even know a single person in the state she's going to school in, much less other moms of PNMs on the campus :-(

What school and state??? It's likely someone on here is from there and can help better geographically

[SparkliiQTMTSU]

I personally am planning on wearing a nice spring dress with some color and a cute little sliver neacklace and a maching bracelet...for now anyway unless I change my mind lol. but I wouldnt want to wear a black dress only b/c I know thats what most of the actives wear and i dont wanna look like just another gal in the crowd. but thats just me might I add. I wish clothing wasnt such an important acpect of going through recruitment. but it is!

Nichole

[WhiteDaisy128]

The only role clothes really play at my university is to make a girl stand out. This can certainly be in a good or bad way. It's not used to judge a girl, other than, is what she is wearing fitting of the occation. Like I said, it's mainly for remembering girls...I can't count how many times during membership selection one of the sisters says, "Oh, was she the one in the blue dress?!" - it just makes you easier to remember.

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by momoftwo
Oh no! My daughter bought a dress at the Nordstrom Sale to wear at Pref that fits this description. JAM's reaction is making me nervous.

The dress is black chiffon-like fabric with an uneven hem that hits mid-calf at its low point. It has a large floral print with reds and I can't remember what else. It is strapless, but it fits snugly, and she doesn't show any cleavage when she wears it. She loved the dress, and got lots of compliments from other moms as she was looking for me when she tried in on. It does look nice on her but...she also has a beautiful dusty pink cocktail dress with off the shoulder straps that she wore to a dance Senior year. I thought she'd wear that, but she really wanted this dress!

She's going to a midwestern state U where rush is supposedly not competitive. I think I'll tell her to bring both dresses with her and she can look at what other PNMs are wearing and decide from there. Any other suggestions?

Speaking as someone who goes to a midwestern state university with a not-very-competitive rush (not Southern-style competitive, at least), both of those dresses sound perfect for pref. Strapless, prints, and other more "flashy" elements are perfectly acceptable here as long as they don't look trashy, and your daughter's dress sounds just great. I think most Big Ten rushes (with the exception of maybe Indiana) are pretty much on the same wavelength as ours, so I wouldn't worry too much. If it looks classy to you, I can almost guarantee you that none of the sororities will have a problem with it.

I think your suggestion to have her bring both dresses might be a good one, though, just in case she realizes she'd feel more comfortable in the pink.

[lionlove]

I like that dress. The ruby necklace sounds nice and more original than a pearl necklace.

[ilovemyglo]

This thread made me think about a girl that came through my first rush on the other side:

She was an AGD Legacy, which we normally don't get many of- and so we were so excited, and she showed up second rounds in a strapless ZEBRA PRINT dress, hugging her everywhere (and she was busty and full figrued).... it looked awful- plus she so much makeup on she looked like she should be on a street corner.... we didn't want to invite her back to prefs, but her looking like a streetwalker wasn't going to be reason enough to cut her and contact her mom and tell her (her mom was an AGD alum from another chapter).

Can you imagine, "Sorry Mrs. AGD we have decided not to invite your daughter back to preference... oh, uhm, why? Because she looks like a streetwalker!"
Thankfully she declined her return invite She muist have gotten the hint when one of our sisters couldn't resist and said "And where does one find a strapless zebra print in your size" Keep in mind, this sister is a size 16- and she was appalled this girl would wear such a thing! We all wanted to burst out laughing at the comment.

Anyway, she pledged another group- thank god! I guess she was happy, but everytime we saw her we were thanking god not to get that legacy!

[xo_kathy]

BluGBI -
I think I have that dress! If it's the same one, it is, quite possibly, the most comfortable dress in the world! Always a plus when rushing!

I think it's fine. Especially with the ruby necklace! And if you could get some sort of bracelet or dark red shoes I think you'd stand out just fine!

Good luck!

[MTSUGURL]

Originally posted by ilovemyglo
This thread made me think about a girl that came through my first rush on the other side:

She was an AGD Legacy, which we normally don't get many of- and so we were so excited, and she showed up second rounds in a strapless ZEBRA PRINT dress, hugging her everywhere (and she was busty and full figrued).... it looked awful- plus she so much makeup on she looked like she should be on a street corner.... we didn't want to invite her back to prefs, but her looking like a streetwalker wasn't going to be reason enough to cut her and contact her mom and tell her

WOW. I have a good friend whose clothes are always at the height of fashion, quite expensive, cute as they can be (on the hanger) and about 3 sizes too small. She's not a little girl, and she's very pretty, but you can't tell because of the fact that her clothes are painted on and often show areas that shouldn't be shown by anyone. I tried to help her pick out more modest clothing for rush last year, but that didn't work...