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People give up on marriage too, TOO easily these days. It used to be that a nice piece of dick/pu$$y comes along, *poof* they're gone. But that's not the only threat anymore. People are starting relationships online, are not willing or opting to go to couples counseling, suffering in silence due to a lack of communication, focusing on material fulfillment instead of emotional fulfillment, thinking of marriage as one long date, hoping that one person will fulfill all of your "missing" elements, thinking the relationship is over if the lust diminishes, etc....
I'm not an expert, but since my father passed away, my mother has told me so much about their marriage that has blown my mind, and taught me a lot. You have to work for your marriage, I mean REALLY work for it. You have to sacrifice, compromise, challenge, and tire. You have to listen, talk, be willing to be wrong, and share the blame.
"Love is meant for the brave". I love that quote because it's true. You can't wimp out or be afraid to face things about yourself and/or your partner if you want a true bond to develop and last...
One more thing: you NEED to talk about your marriage expectations BEFORE walking down the aisle. People get so wrapped up in "the big day", they forget about the fact they have to live with that person for the next 60 years!
Last edited by sigmagrrl; 07-19-2003 at 08:21 AM.
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