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Originally posted by serenity_24:
This might be a long post so bare with me
Then, to top it all off, they were telling me that I was doing this wrong and doing that wrong, when they didn't even have a clue as to what I was doing in the first place  . I wanted to snap sooooooooooooooo bad, but I just didn't know how to say what I wanted to say without being viewed as the hostile negro.
This is my delima: I need help figuring out a way to SNAP that will be effective and stern; letting people know where to get off without crossing the line.
Help me, Please.
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I certainly feel your pain!! I deal with this type of thing at work on a daily basis. What works for me is to find out where their head is, so to speak. That way, if there are legitimate concerns you get to hear them, but if they are not legitimate they expose themselves for being irrational with out you gettin' out of the box on them! Ask them to explain their reservations in detail and then counteract it with the real deal. Ask them for their suggestions on how you should do it differently (and make them tell you WHY). Of course all of this will be done with a super sweet voice! If you still see that they disrespect you and not the other folks in your group then come right out and say(minus the neck and eye rolling!
) "I noticed that when I do XYZ you do XYZ, but when Suzy does the same thing you nod and agree. Why is that?" Most likely they will deny, but you would have at least put them on notice that you ain't no fool!!
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