Reassure me... - Page 2

CutiePie2000 · #16 04-03-2003, 02:34 PM

I'm 32 and single, so I don't really have great advice to offer.

Even if you were to get married, there are no guarantees that it will last forever and ever and ever. I have 3 older sisters and Sister #2 was married at 23, has 4 kids and after 16 years of marriage, it's over....kaput.

At my 10 year high school reunion in 1998, there were about 4 people there who were divorced already, or in the process of getting divorced (One guy is on Wife #2 now)

I think the best thing is to enjoy your life as much as you can, and make it as full and wonderful as it possibly can be, without or without a partner in it.

MoxieGrrl · #17 04-03-2003, 02:42 PM

Take up the "Sex and the City" advice, and start enjoying your newfound status as a singleton! Besides, nothing attracts men more than a confident woman!

*hugs* I know it sounds like crap now, but it will get easier with time, PSPgirl. Promise.

(Btw...Kateshort, all I have to say is "awwww!!!!"

)

AlphaSigLana · #18 04-03-2003, 03:15 PM

I feel your pain as a new single person, even though I was barely with the guy. Heck out of all the guys I've dated I could add up all the months and I still don't equal a year. SO I've never dated anyone long term and it sucks. I am going against what a lot of people have said, but that is because I feel that for those of us that really want to be with someone and want to be moms it is more painful to be single than for those that like being single and those that are focused on other things. But I think 19 is too young to get married. I'm 21 and I have changed since being 19. Plus it is more fun to be single on you 21st birthday anyway.
My brother is 19 and married and it is hard!! They barely make ends meet and my brother works 12 hour days comes home and takes his wife on errands since they only have one car. Then they spend time with their son. So they never get to just enjoy life. They are happy, but they'd probably be happier if they had waited.

adduncan · #19 04-03-2003, 06:04 PM

Dear, do not worry.

The best advice I ever got was "Don't get married until you're 30."

I am very glad that's how things happened for me. I was 32 when I married (Mr. Adrienne was 31). 2 years later we are both convinced that it was best for us this way. Since we've been around the sun more times it's easier to communicate, even when we're frustrated and the "give and take" seems to come more naturally than it would have if we had gotten married 10 years earlier.

I do understand your feelings tho--I went through the exact same thing several times--in college and after--wondering if I'd ever find a good person to marry, after breaking up w/ someone. As you put it, enjoying the "nonsingleness".

My SILs are 20 yrs my senior and they're telling me constantly that I'm "still a kid".

Well, from one "kid" to another, my advice is this: enjoy your life one day at a time. You don't know what's around the corner, bad or good.

Adrienne (PNAM-2003)

sugar and spice · #20 04-03-2003, 06:27 PM

I can see how, if you just got out of a long relationship, it's going to take a while for you to enjoy being single again. But you will, I promise! The best advice I can give you is not to jump into another relationship right away . . . take time off to do the things you enjoy about NOT having a boyfriend.

I broke up with a long-term boyfriend back in March, and was single until December, and I had so much fun that I almost didn't want to start dating the boy who is now my boyfriend because I was having so much fun being without a boyfriend for once.

And as for being married at 20 -- no offense to anybody who did it -- but there are many many more things I want to do with my life before getting married. I can't see myself getting married before age 26 at the earliest!

Peaches-n-Cream · #21 04-03-2003, 10:24 PM

Ditto what everyone else wrote.

You're young, have fun!

pinkyphimu · #22 04-03-2003, 10:27 PM

it is tough ending a relationship, but you will find some fun in being single. at 19, i was in a relationship with someone who wanted to marry me. it was SCARY!!!! holy canoli forever is a long time! we broke up and married the next girl he dated! i have grown so much since i was 19. the things i wanted in a person are different that what i want now. plus, i have a better handle on who i am!!

i do understand, tho, that feeling of being the only one of your friends not in a serious relationship or married. lots of my friends got married right after graduation, but not me. i moved 6 hours away, all by myself! my friends who did marry right away were very afraid to be alone. it is kind of sad. i have another friend who has said that all of the people she knew that had married right after college, were divorced by their 5 yr reunion! right now, all of my friends are married or in serious relationships. coming from a recent long term (almost married) kind of relationship, i am sad and the fact that i am single makes me feel like i stand out. my friends still love me and treat me well. i like all of their sig others, but i know that i am not ready to be married. i am still too young! there are lots of things to experience, etc. and i would really like to do as much as i can before i settle down.

on a slightly sad note: when i broke up with my bf, i was crying to my dad on the phone about how i would never get married and that i can't believe that he and i broke up, etc. my dad said, "honestly, i never thought you would be married until later in life." i know my dad ment it in the sweetest way, but it made me cry harder!!!

James · #23 04-03-2003, 10:42 PM

That was funny lol.

Quote:

Originally posted by Rudey
You only get married if she refuses to get an abortion is what I read somewhere.

-Rudey
--Socrates said it I think.

damasa · #24 04-03-2003, 10:45 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Cream

You're young, have fun!

This gives us further reason to believe that cream=super secret silent type.....

That is all

Tom Earp · #25 04-03-2003, 10:48 PM

Married once! Wont do it again!! Married 20/20 but have been living on my own since then, well off and on!

If you have a Puter, Big Sreen, and GC!?

What else is there in life??

I have been asked by some of the GC Lovlies about my age!

I would be more than willing to make love to all of the GC Ladies, if I could!

Hell, dont worry about it, it to shall come to pass! Life heals any and all wounds! It do take some time to get over it tho! Dont Ya Know!

Walk down the street, go to a bar, turn the corner, and walla, may be the new guy!

At a young life everything is a stress, wait till you get to 00 and see what it means!