Normally I am in accord with you but well . . . settling by any other name is still settling. And you have said to settle . . hence the prioritizing your needs.
But in the spirit of your post: Maybe a guy has a multiplicity of interests and talents and finds it hard to meet one woman to meet enough of those needs. So he goes elsewhere to get some of them filled.
If I am reading most of you ladies correctly, a guys best bet is to find a girl that will rock his entire existance in the bedroom. That way he can seek emotional and intellectual needs elsewhere and be much less tempted sleep with those girls.
However, its often a shared emotional understanding that leads to these long time affairs.
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Originally posted by librasoul22
If that is the case, then he has maturity issues. I am the last person to say "well, settle for what you have, it's better than nothing!" (I would rather have nothing at all then settle). But if that man is not getting what he needs then he needs to move on. It is the EPITOME of selfishness to have some harem of significant others because YOU have complex needs to be met. Don't we all? Yes, we do. And guess what? Many people find a way to be monogamous and HAPPY. I say it is a maturity isse, because as you become wiser, you begin to prioritize your needs and realize that if someone can meet the ones that are most important to you, then they are Mr./Mrs. Right.
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