Is he too cheap?

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by TKE209Sweethrt
If she truely loves this man, it shouldn't matter how much the ring will cost.

On the other hand, if he truly loves her, I would think that he would put more time and effort into picking out a ring so that he could be sure that it is something she will like. If he just picks out something off the internet that she doesn't like, that could be an indication that he is not in tune with her in general, kind of like the time I was dating a guy in college and he got me a gold necklace for my birthday, and I NEVER wore gold. That relationship ended soon after -- of course not because of the necklace, but because I guess we really didn't "get" each other and that was just one instance of that becoming apparent.

I think also that there are plenty of women out there (myself included) who don't like the idea of a "starter" ring. To me, the engagement ring is a symbol of the relationship and is not something that I would want to just trade in later for something "better" -- I would want the best that I can get and keep it "forever."

Of course, now that I think about it more, it all depends on the people involved. When I got engaged (a long time ago) I wanted the biggest, most perfect, impressive ring I could possibly get, and I got it. It was a struggle financially but I loved it. Now, if I ever get engaged again, I really wouldn't care so much about the ring, and I might not even want one at all (I'm a little bothered by the traditional symbolism of engagement rings). I would, however, want to design my own wedding band, and it would have to be something very beautiful and symbolic. However, if a certain type of ring is important to a woman, I think that the guy should do what he can to get something that would make her happy while not causing him too much financial strain.