OK, this has gotten totally off Anne Marie's original post. She was expressing her dismay that her rush chair seems to be more concerned with hitting total than strengthening sisterhood.
There is strong sisterhood in all sizes of chapters, and there is weak sisterhood in all sizes of chapters. If you have 200 sisters and you are happy - stupendous. I personally would not have enjoyed that, and chose my chapter because it was smaller than the other group I was looking at. I felt I would get lost in a bigger group (this was before I had such a big mouth
) - in the smaller group I would have more opportunity to be myself and stand out. Of course, those are my personal reasons. I had sisters who wrang their hands for 4 years because we were small and they were so hung up on it that they couldn't change it - i.e. rush or COB quality women effectively. In retrospect, perhaps they shouldn't have pledged us. I've never claimed my chapter was "elite" or "exclusive" because it was smaller than some of the other groups - just stated that I, personally, preferred it that way.
I agree with what AXOLiz said - I'd rather wait 2 months to work (and yes, sometimes it takes a while to get someone to pledge) to get women who I know will be great, rather than give in to the "quota pressure" and bid "OK" women solely because they happen to be there.
Edited to add, going Greek is not for everyone. Unless you have zero variety in your social circle, not everyone who is a great friend will make a great sister. If you believe they will, I've got a bridge I'd like to sell you.
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