Perhaps it's the counselor in me, but I just wanted to add my two cents.
It feel bad that archangel689 has been stepped on here a bit. I can definitely see wptw's argument that having a tight-fisted grasp on the organization can hinder growth. However, the "Then you can go to counseling and address your control issues" comment was uncalled for.
The way I see it, archangel689 seems to sound more like a worried chapter founder than a control freak. In my opinion, it's not uncommon for founders to feel anxious. "What if the future members stray away from the ideals?", "What if we recruit the wrong kind of man?" etc etc. Colony members put so much heart and effort into something that they grow to cherish - they'd feel gutted if something were to go wrong. Take the example of Corina who is trying to start a new NPC sorority at UCSC. She's put so much into it that she wants more than anything for things to go right.
Archangel689, since you say that your group is "near charter status" I propose that you might be simply feeling a little bit anxious about whether or not you and the founders have made all of the right decisions. You sound like you feel responsible for setting the right tone and direction.
Rest assured that, at the end of the day, the chapter will go in the direction it wants to go. I join in with the others here in saying that, if you set a solid foundation and recruit men for the right reasons, it should be ok. After that, it's not up to you anymore. That's the neat thing about groups....sometimes they go on to do exciting things. Do you think that the original founders of Phi Kappa Theta ever imagined what great things the fraternity would go on to do? Look at it today! Wow! And do you know what? The fraternity is still holding onto it's ideals.
Lastly, I would encourage to do your best to enjoy this time. Don't forget to have fun so that, when you look back, you can say, "I had a great time!"
Best of success to you and your chapter,
.....Kelly
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