advice needed

[AXOLiz]

Originally posted by James
I wouldn't talk to him about it at all. Talk confuses us guys. Just set out to seduce him.

Look good, be in a situation where you both have had a couple drinks and just kiss him a few times and see where it leads.

If he is responsive you win. If he is freaked you can blame it on the alcohol so you can both save face.

You might want to be careful though...a friend of mine is in a similar situation except flip-flopped. I think her ex is semi-interested in starting a relationship up again (he's been calling her to hang out, he told a mutual friend how gorgeous she is, invited her to his holiday party, etc.). She's sort of planning on hooking up with him - "sort of" as in it'll definitely happen if he's up for a one time, no strings attached thing - problem is, there's a pretty good chance he's looking for more than just a, "Let's hook up tonight and limit all contact afterwards unless I call you first" type of deal. It's probably more of the, "Wow, now that we've hooked up again, I'm so glad we're back together" thing, which would probably get a, "Yeah, that's great, gotta go!" out of my friend.

The point of all this random dialogue is that if you want an actual relationship with this guy, as much as talking can confuse things, you might want to make it clear you're interested in more than just a hook-up from the beginning (which it seems like you are). Otherwise he may just think that's all it is, and I'm assuming you don't want to turn into his booty call.

Unless that's what you want, then go for the alcohol-induced seduction!