Advice

[aprilxo]

Originally posted by UF_PikePC98
If they were real friends they wouldn't say thyose things to you nor would they put you in a situation to where you have to choose whether or not being their friend is more important than being yourself. When I say being yourself, I mean always having to check with someone before you speak or do something for fear that it might piss them off.

You know, Michelle, that is a good point he made (and actually something I should seriously re-evaluate w/my fiance--ISSUES. But that is not the point

I understand that it's hard to just let somebody be pissed at you though... and as a girl I tend to 'network' and I hate just shutting people out... but if you have sincerely tried apologizing and she just flips out about you suppsedly flirting multiple times with these guys (besides your one confirmed occasion) then it really does sound more like HER problem than yours... total insecurity.

I had (yeah had) a friend who would not even let me MEET her romantic interests because she was constantly paranoid that I would steal him. I never even once flirted w/any of them. She just thought that guys naturally enjoy talking with me and that they would like me more than her--but that was her problem, not mine--I never did anything to deserve that rep besides being me, and I can't help that. So put your best foot forward and try to patch things up, but if it's just not working--like Craig said, "stop hammering yourself about something that can't be fixed."

Hope things work out (just remember that in the long run, whatever happens will be for the best!)

LiCO,
april