Boy this just blows my mind! So are you saying that if a guy in, let's say, Sigma Alpha Epsilon drops me, then I would get beat up because I didn't earn his letters? That is really dumb. I think he probably earned his letters during pledgeship enough for two people!
We have workshops sponsored by our nationals on hazing. The point of a sorority is to promote friendships, and common interests. We call it being a "Kappa lady" Theta calls it being a "Theta lady" Chi-O has "Christmas" where they shower their little sis's with gifts. This is the point of joining a sorority-friendship and trust. And having fun. It's college, get a grip. Getting "dropped" is just another aspect of sorority life that is so fun to share with a sister. Usually followed by "passing candle" and singing songs to her and hearing the story of how the guy surprised her with a drop, or proposed.
So to the guy wondering how to "drop" your girlfriend, and I don't know anything about repercussions from frat brothers! but, make it special, because if you do marry her it will be something that you will remember for the rest of your life.
And as far as hazing goes, as much as all of our sorority nationals have tried to educate us on this topic, have you people not learned that you could lose your charter over this? It is very stupid to risk losing your recognition over hazing. Members do not need to be hazed to become bonded. I have some of the best friendships from participating in community service, pledge class intramurals, rush, all-university sing, and many other aspects of college life.
That is really stupid to say that someone was
"asking for it" people have used that same excuse in rape trials. Think about it, it's the same mentality. For more information on hazing contact your university panhellenic, and nationals, I am sure that they have specific rules set for you guys.
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