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UFRushee05, my heart goes out to you. Sometimes I honestly wonder whether the joy of the successful rushees justifies the heartbreak of girls who are cut.
You are the farthest thing from crazy for still wanting to go greek after being rejected. You are acting like an adult. You are standing strong in the face of disappointment. You are making the best out of a bad situation. The crazy thing would be to let the sororities that turned you down destroy your college experience.
My one piece of advice is not to let your respect for sorority women distract you from the fact that they are just flawed human beings like everyone else, and sometimes they are influenced by factors that have nothing to do with sisterhood. Obviously, we will never know what happened in your case, but the reality is that in a competitive system, plenty of wonderful people get cut for shallow reasons, like they aren't as well-connected or trendily dressed or as physically fit as other PNMs. We don't talk about this ugly side very much on GC, but we should acknowledge that sometimes -- just sometimes -- these kinds of concerns are behind the decisions sororities make. Or, as JAM pointed out, there may not be any reason at all besides getting lost in the shuffle. I hope you will bear that in mind when you are tempted to believe that there must have been something wrong with you, or this wouldn't have happened.
Best of luck with DZ and with finding happiness in college. The maturity and unselfishness you're showing by working to be happy for your best friend suggests to me that you are going to find true sisters in college, even if you don't wear pins.
Ivy
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