My advice is to give him a chance. Kids can change a lot in just a few months, so definitely wait until you've hung around him during Rush a few times before you form an opinion.
If, at the end of that time, you and your brothers still feel that he might not do well in your chapter, break the news to him as gently as possible. For all you know, he may be interested in pledging elsewhere anyway! Also, to prevent alienating alumni, I would call all three of the alums personally (let your rush chairman, president or alumni advisor make the phone call) and explain that you like the guy but do not feel that he would fit in with your chapter, that he might be happier somewhere else. There will be hurt feelings regardless of how politely you do this, but making the extra effort to personally give attention to the matter will go a long way in soothing sore feelings. Hope this helps... Again, let me reiterate that you should definitely GIVE THIS PERSON A CHANCE. Don't state your opinion of him to your brothers now. Let them form their own opinions. And be nice to the legacy, no matter what!
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