I posted this reply in the AKA forum on this issue and I wanted to post it here as well.... Because of the comments I've seen expressed on GreekChat... I can see some members don't really see that their own mentality might be a contributing factor to incidents such as this.............................
I think there is a deeper issue to the problem....There are so many "old heads" in Sororities and Fraternities, that will not give you "respect" if you don't go that route. Now I don't mean, participate in things like this of course, but I mean the "other" process. Look at the situation with Vince Carter. Many "brothers" don't want to give him "respect" because he "pledged grad." Now many members of BGLO's will say the right thing i.e. "he's my brother regardless....or We're a non-hazing, oranization...blah, blah, blah..." but when it really comes down to it, the love isn't there. I proudly pledged an Alumnae chapter of DST, but there were so many who would not because of fear of how they would be treated. Now granted, you could say that maybe they didn't want be a part of the organization for the right reasons anyway if that deterred them, but...I think you all get the point. So much so, that many naive folks are willing to do WHATEVER it takes to "be down." I know the girls in this case are responsible for their own actions, however, man members of BGLO's should change the way others are treated that go another route. I know no one wants anybody to slip through the cracks into the organization, but if we keep putting a stigma on going grad..these things will continue to happen. I am trying to be as discrete as possible, but I know all the Greeks out there know what I am talking about.
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