Placing Blame

[kddani]

I would never place blame on a house for cutting a girl without knowing both sides. I know that as wonderful as people could seem on here, when they go through rush they *COULD* (not saying that they ARE) be freaks, dorks, nasty or otherwise incompatible.
BUT, i don't think it's outside our scope to give criticism to stated rush tactics. I think that one sister for 2 PNMs isn't good rushing unless it is utterly, totally unavoidable. But with most schools having at least a semi-formal rush, numbers are more controlled and it's not like a house suddenly gets 100 pnm's storming in and only has 40 sisters to rush. And if there's other sisters helping with skits, etc. they shouldn't be in the room standing there, they should be helping with getting the skit ready. And whatever happened to "bumping"- having several sisters get to know PNMs??? While we don't know the case at the stated house, all sisters who are rushing PNMs should know that if they do happen to rush two girls at the same time, they should make a strong effort to equally involve both of them in the conversation. And in this case, it was PREF, which means the numbers were controlled, and it's also supposed to be a very personal, special event.
A chapter that rushes well makes EVERYONE want to come back. They're NICE to everyone and treat everyone the SAME! The chapters that did very well in return rates on my campus did so because they made ALL the rushees feel special and important.
Maybe this sorority needs to re-examine some of their rush tactics. I would strongly suggest it. I doubt that this was the only PNM who felt that uncomfortable.
Once again, i would never say just from talking with a rushee on here that any house that didn't take them is horrible, etc. Because we don't know that person in real life, just what they say on here. But there's no reason why I can't disagree with how she was rushed.