Okay worriedsenior I know what you mean...
Let me just tell you my story... I went through rush as a sophomore. My freshman year I hung out almost exclusively at a Fraternity house, though. I never had sex with any members (I only dated one member and we were together 8 months including my rush period). I know for a fact that the house I joined, well, there were some girls there that expressed concern about me joining because they had heard I had slept with people there. They did not know this for a fact, though. One of the girls that was most concerned called a brother of that fraternity and bluntly asked him. He told her that indeed I had never had sex with any of his brothers and that he thought highly of me. That helped her but did not completely sway her. She ended up realizing that rumors are just that.. that is why HEAR SAY IS NOT ALLOWED!! We have a system that means you have to have a pro also. However you have to realize, we had a girl come through asking us what our drug policy was because she was an occasional user... when you are going through rush this is inappropriate behavior and very tactless. We dropped her because you can't hold a spot for someone who maybe smoking pot with your letters on, or worse yet, has it in your housing. I am not saying it made her a bad person, it just isn't what the values of my sorority stand for. You have to realize when you are deciding on who will be your sisters you are not just deciding for your chapter, but also for every sister out there that wears your pin/badge. You want them to be proud of the women you give the honor of being a sister too.
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