I agree, maggieaxd--we should not drop our standards just so no one's feelings get hurt. It sounds harsh, but that's the way it is. You don't see employers giving all applicants jobs just so everyone can have one, do you? It's the same here. That's why we don't worry about quota--we're not going to sacrifice our standards just to say, "Oh, we have X number of new members!" We take the ones we sincerely want, but we don't want to hand out bids to girls we don't think would make good sisters (for whatever reason) just so we'll be the biggest group on campus. That's not fair to us or the PNMs.
And as for the recs--yes, get your own!!! My campus says sororities are responsible for obtaining them, but I've heard that really, really rare. Now, I didn't have any because I told all the alums I knew not to write any because I didn't think it was important, and I did end up at my first choice. STILL, though...it's better to just go ahead and get them for yourself; that way, you'll likely have more of an edge than someone without them.
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