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Originally posted by thesweetestone
I hate to see people spanking their children in public. I think you should raise your kids at home, so when they come out in public they will know how to act. It makes me so sad to those little kids getting beat in the middle of the store.  Of course I am not yet a mother, so I don't have any experience in raising children. But, I don't think will hit my children when I do have some.
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Sweetestone, I understand what you're saying about discipline beginning in the home. BUT...there's ONE thing that parents (and others) need to know and constantly remember. YOUR CHILDREN, at SOME point in time or another, ARE GOING TO TRY YOU. Although it's not our ONLY or MAIN form of discipline, my husband and I are FIRM believers in spankings. And we apply them, accordingly, to both of our children. If you were a parent, then you'd DEFINITELY know what I'm talking about. I've found that the majority of the time (and I'm not speaking about you because I don't know you), it's the people who DON'T have children who try to tell parents how to be parents. I'm telling you, there's NO job harder than being a parent...ESPECIALLY in these days and times. Believe me, if my children would have been born with instruction manuals, then I would STILL be using them.
But parenting doesn't work that way. You can be a GODMOTHER, GODFATHER, UNCLE, AUNT, etc. But there's NO experience like raising YOUR OWN children.
I work with kids who have their parents, aunts, grandparents, etc. literally SCARED of them. These kids curse their parents out, are disrespectful, defiant, verbally and physically hostile. And their parents or caretakers are not able to manage their behavior. These kids don't mind telling their parents/caretakers off in front of a crowd of people. It's just sad. But this is how I see it (and I've told my 8-year-old daughter this). I WORK in that mess. But I absolutely REFUSE to come home to it. No, neither of my children ASKED to be here. But they're here and my husband and I are responsible for them UNTIL they atleast turn 18 years old. UNTIL THEN, what WE say, goes. We love them. Would DIE for them. Work hard for them. Give them EVERYTHING that they NEED and MOST of what they WANT. And we wouldn't tell them anything wrong or do anything to hurt them. Hey, I'm willing to bet you, that once you DO have children, your decision about spankings will change once your FIRST child turns...let's say about a YEAR old.
My husband and I are just DETERMINED that OUR children are going to BE and DO better than we have (and my husband and I are from S.C. and raised the OLD SCHOOL way)...even if we have to knock them out to do it!!!
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