What do you feel like saying, right now?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Never heard of that one. You’ve never talked about it. Is that one a jalopy like that old MG you have? I remember that thing looking like a Model T.

It’s a 1964. My MG is a 1948.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

So college ex had repeated patterns of cheating then? You said you look at repeated patterns, then act. And then you said wrongful convictions happen when you assume first, right? When I asked you if you caught dude cheating, you said no, but went off of some chick leaving a vmail on his phone, then dropped all his shit off he got you at his crib (funniest story on the planet) LOL! You assumed, right? You said you didn’t talk about it or ask dude about it you just dumped him quick. Dude probably came out the next day, saw the bag, looked inside and said WTF? LMAO! For real though, he either cheated several times and you knew, but stayed, the vmail hit a last straw, or you assumed, which contradicts your post.

lol
Several times? Umm.. I don’t do charity work on guys. You’re confusing me with one of those “I can fix him” girls. I’ve never been the type to do rehab projects or sequel seasons of disrespect. One season of bad writing, and I cancel the show. I’m more of a one episode and done type.

And the voicemail wasn’t a warning shot, it was a verdict. I didn’t need to catch him twice to know what once already proved. That wasn’t an assumption, that was confirmation. Her voicemail wasn’t some innocent “hey bro, call me back” message, it was… let’s just say, more like career ending evidence, lol.

So no, I didn’t need a jury, just a spine. I didn’t ask for explanations because liars rehearse those. I dropped off the bag of gifts, kept my peace, and moved on. Case closed. When I’m in a relationship, guys learn fast that I’m not a therapist, I’m the lesson. I did have to “fix” my hubby a little, but he was SO totally worth it. Kind of like polishing my masterpiece, lol.

Dot connecting and discernment are two of the best friends I’ve ever had in choosing a partner. If logic, discernment, and accountability guided justice the way they guide me personally, this country wouldn’t be living in such a corrupt circus. I am too evolved for America’s dysfunction.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

It’s a 1964. My MG is a 1948.

I looked it up. I see different ones. Which one is yours?

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

lol
Several times? Umm.. I don’t do charity work on guys. You’re confusing me with one of those “I can fix him” girls. I’ve never been the type to do rehab projects or sequel seasons of disrespect. One season of bad writing, and I cancel the show. I’m more of a one episode and done type.

And the voicemail wasn’t a warning shot, it was a verdict. I didn’t need to catch him twice to know what once already proved. That wasn’t an assumption, that was confirmation. Her voicemail wasn’t some innocent “hey bro, call me back” message, it was… let’s just say, more like career ending evidence, lol.

So no, I didn’t need a jury, just a spine. I didn’t ask for explanations because liars rehearse those. I dropped off the bag of gifts, kept my peace, and moved on. Case closed. When I’m in a relationship, guys learn fast that I’m not a therapist, I’m the lesson. I did have to “fix” my hubby a little, but he was SO totally worth it. Kind of like polishing my masterpiece, lol.

Dot connecting and discernment are two of the best friends I’ve ever had in choosing a partner. If logic, discernment, and accountability guided justice the way they guide me personally, this country wouldn’t be living in such a corrupt circus. I am too evolved for America’s dysfunction.

Fair enough. But y’all do always think y’all can fix dudes. You got a good one and still call yourself polishing up rough edges LOL! I don’t know why chicks do that. Dudes hate that.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Fair enough. But y’all do always think y’all can fix dudes. You got a good one and still call yourself polishing up rough edges LOL! I don’t know why chicks do that. Dudes hate that.

Well, I think a lot of us do fall into the “I can fix him” phase at least once. But the truth is, you can’t fix a guy, you can only support what’s already in him. So like, if a guy already has ambition, discipline, and kindness, smart women will mirror and encourage those things. But if he’s empty or chaotic inside, she can’t plant what isn’t there, although some really dumb ones will try.

There’s a big difference between wanting to change someone and wanting to grow with them. Fixing comes from control. Growth comes from belief.

When I said “polish,” I didn’t mean I was working on a project (guys like that are awful, lol). I meant we both learned how to bring out the best in each other without losing who we already were. The right woman doesn’t rewire a guy, she sharpens what’s already there. That’s the kind of “fixing” I meant. Like refining what was already good or like a clearer version of the same guy. Kind of like nudging him into seeing his strengths instead of doubting them. Know what I mean? That kind of thing.

I just think relationships are about recognition, not reconstruction.

[XAntoftheSkyX]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

AGDee was about to hook you up with her daughter? See bro, that’s why do don’t get married. You had options LOL

Lol, the option was someone I had never talked to, met, or interacted with at all. It was also about 15 years ago, so safe to say that ship never sailed, it didn't even leave the port.

[cheerfulgreek]

WIFLSRN: I’m still at work and I got here at like 7 this morning. I am going home now, but wanted to post this before I go to my car.

I’ve posted work issues like this before, but my patients can’t exactly tell me what’s wrong, so I have to play detective with the owner’s story and a good physical exam.

The problem? Half the time I’m trying to get a clear, specific answer, and instead I get like a ten minute TED Talk about what the dog looked like when it sneezed in 2019.

And then I’m like, “When did the vomiting start?” and they’re like, “Well, back when we switched to grain free, we also got a new couch…”

Like… ma’am, please. I just need the timeline, not your home decor journey?

So yeah, concise answers would be nice. Some days I swear I need a translator for pet owner storytelling disorder. You know what? I think I just need to find a new line of work. 🫤

[PKT4LIFE]

Sad news. Greek Chat SIGTAU305 (Garth Lampkin) passed away late in 2024. He was a moderator on this site. https://www.instagram.com/p/DEYE92_Rpk2/

I knew Garth from Cleveland State. He rushed when I was President of my chapter and attended one of our rush events. He was an active alumni with the fraternity he loved, Sigma Tau Gamma.

[PKT4LIFE]

Sad news. Greek Chat SIGTAU305 (Garth Lampkin) passed away late in 2024. He was a moderator on this site. https://www.instagram.com/p/DEYE92_Rpk2/

I knew Garth from Cleveland State. He rushed when I was President of my chapter and attended one of our rush events. He was an active alumni with the fraternity he loved, Sigma Tau Gamma.

[Cheerio]

Originally Posted by PKT4LIFE

Sad news. Greek Chat SIGTAU305 (Garth Lampkin) passed away late in 2024. He was a moderator on this site. https://www.instagram.com/p/DEYE92_Rpk2/

I knew Garth from Cleveland State. He rushed when I was President of my chapter and attended one of our rush events. He was an active alumni with the fraternity he loved, Sigma Tau Gamma.

Thank you for your post, PKT4LIFE. Due to your link, I now know what Garth looked like IRL (as always, so different from what's in the imagination).


I remember his GC signature.


What a blessing Garth's beloved Sigma Tau Gamma fraternity brothers helped him near the end, and then assisted with his after needs.


R.I.P.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

I looked it up. I see different ones. Which one is yours?

https://youtube.com/shorts/9PFHgxQ4A..._PmOhGM8baZzis

Mine is green. Hat turned backwards is the same though.

[honeychile]

So sorry to hear about Garth. I remember him as an interesting & knowledgeable poster.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PKT4LIFE

Sad news. Greek Chat SIGTAU305 (Garth Lampkin) passed away late in 2024. He was a moderator on this site. https://www.instagram.com/p/DEYE92_Rpk2/

I knew Garth from Cleveland State. He rushed when I was President of my chapter and attended one of our rush events. He was an active alumni with the fraternity he loved, Sigma Tau Gamma.

Yes, I remember him. He and I chatted occasionally. He loved the Cleveland Cavaliers. I was wondering where he was. So sad. Praying for his family. Thank you for posting this.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by PKT4LIFE

Sad news. Greek Chat SIGTAU305 (Garth Lampkin) passed away late in 2024. He was a moderator on this site. https://www.instagram.com/p/DEYE92_Rpk2/

I knew Garth from Cleveland State. He rushed when I was President of my chapter and attended one of our rush events. He was an active alumni with the fraternity he loved, Sigma Tau Gamma.

Sad to hear of his passing. Thank you for sharing this.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by PKT4LIFE

Sad news. Greek Chat SIGTAU305 (Garth Lampkin) passed away late in 2024. He was a moderator on this site. https://www.instagram.com/p/DEYE92_Rpk2/

I knew Garth from Cleveland State. He rushed when I was President of my chapter and attended one of our rush events. He was an active alumni with the fraternity he loved, Sigma Tau Gamma.

Sorry to hear that. We were Facebook friends for a little while. He was a good guy and definitely loved his fraternity.

[*winter*]

Originally Posted by Cheerio

What a blessing Garth's beloved Sigma Tau Gamma fraternity brothers helped him near the end, and then assisted with his after needs.


R.I.P.

And THIS is why we talk about membership being for life. I’m glad he had the love and support from his brothers up to the end.

Condolences to his friends and family.