What do you feel like saying, right now?

[carnation]

Okay y'all, I've had members ask if I can have people tone down the personal insults in this thread. Whatever the insults are, you know if you're trying to zap someone--so don't.

[sigmagirl2000]

With all the hate flying in other threads, this is the one people are complaint about!??!

Oy vey.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by sigmagirl2000

With all the hate flying in other threads, this is the one people are complaint about!??!

Oy vey.

Yeah, but what might not be insulting to us, could be to somebody else. We’re living in sensitive times now. You can’t say the things on GreekChat today that you could 10 or more years ago. I do think it’d be nice to know what was posted though so we’ll know what it is that needs to be toned down. I don’t believe anybody on this thread was intentionally trying to insult someone else personally.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Yeah, but what might not be insulting to us, could be to somebody else. We’re living in sensitive times now. You can’t say the things on GreekChat today that you could 10 or more years ago. I do think it’d be nice to know what was posted though so we’ll know what it is that needs to be toned down. I don’t believe anybody on this thread was intentionally trying to insult someone else personally.

Yep.
I used to be like super outgoing — like… “talk to anyone, always making new friends kind of outgoing”. But over the years, that’s changed. Not because I’ve become cold or anti-social, but because I’ve seen how unpredictable people can be. Sensitivities have gotten louder, assumptions fly faster, and sometimes even the smallest comment gets twisted into something it was never meant to be. It’s really exhausting.

So these days, I just keep my circle small, my family close, and like three coffee friends who’ve earned my trust. That’s it. Not because I don’t like people, but because emotional safety matters. Energy is expensive. And once you realize how rare it is to meet people who get you without misreading you, you stop offering access to everyone.

That’s also why I ignore most people outside my bubble now. I mean, it’s not weird energy or anything like that, it’s self-preservation. Know what I mean? I’ve learned that kindness doesn’t require openness, and maturity sometimes means knowing when to keep the door closed. If that makes sense.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Yep.
I used to be like super outgoing — like… “talk to anyone, always making new friends kind of outgoing”. But over the years, that’s changed. Not because I’ve become cold or anti-social, but because I’ve seen how unpredictable people can be. Sensitivities have gotten louder, assumptions fly faster, and sometimes even the smallest comment gets twisted into something it was never meant to be. It’s really exhausting.

So these days, I just keep my circle small, my family close, and like three coffee friends who’ve earned my trust. That’s it. Not because I don’t like people, but because emotional safety matters. Energy is expensive. And once you realize how rare it is to meet people who get you without misreading you, you stop offering access to everyone.

That’s also why I ignore most people outside my bubble now. I mean, it’s not weird energy or anything like that, it’s self-preservation. Know what I mean? I’ve learned that kindness doesn’t require openness, and maturity sometimes means knowing when to keep the door closed. If that makes sense.

This! Exactly, CG. But nowadays, folks are sensitive about the wrong things and passive about the right things. It’s maddening.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

This! Exactly, CG. But nowadays, folks are sensitive about the wrong things and passive about the right things. It’s maddening.

Yep. It’s like people have flipped the filter. It’s like we’re (in general) hyper-sensitive about the stuff that barely matters and weirdly quiet about things that actually should upset us. It’s confusing. And exhausting.

At some point, I just stopped trying to decode it all. Know what I mean? Like, people are overwhelmed, and a lot of them are reacting instead of reflecting. So I try to give grace where I can, protect my space, and remind myself that not everything deserves a response. Some things just aren’t mine to carry.

I dunno, you kind of have to learn how to care without carrying, if that makes sense, lol.

[cheerfulgreek]

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