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Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands
LOL! I didn’t know you were going to watch it too. Yeah, dude said that’s all he saw his pops do was be the bread winner and provide. But he ain’t working Lol! That’s why it’s funny. Did you see the chick who said she doesn’t respect her husband and was complaining about why he seldom if at all has sex with her? I hollered. You should keep watching, it gets funnier. I was right about the women though. All of them mentioned they were going to bounce if their husbands don’t fix their issues, but none of the dudes said they’d bounce if their wives don’t fix theirs. See what I’m saying? Y’all always leave when y’all aren’t happy. I’m not saying you or all, because some marriages are solid, but 90% do bounce.
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So, I started it and then I stopped like halfway through the first or second part. The episodes kind of blended together because I fell asleep, lol. Honestly, it got really boring. I didn’t like it. I mean, not because marriage isn’t complex, but because they were. The couples. I just saw a lot of immaturity, emotional laziness, and most of them seemed more invested in being right than actually growing.
And it wasn’t just the women or just the men, I felt that both sides were stuck in this loop of blaming instead of building. Like that “provision” guy, I mean, he just kept talking about “what he saw his dad do,” but he’s unemployed with zero plan. That’s not generational modeling, that’s generational name dropping. I mean, that guy was using his father as a talking point, not as a blueprint. That’s like performative masculinity, not real leadership. Know what I mean?
And the women? Oh dear God! Like, you’re not going to nag someone into becoming who you want. That’s not marriage, that’s control with a ring on it. Some of them looked ready to leave over things that hadn’t even been fully confronted, but I also know some people come into marriage carrying scars. I just think that if you never take responsibility for your patterns, you’ll repeat them in your next relationship too. It’s just that many people drag their past into their future and then blame the new partner for triggering old wounds. I mean, healing isn’t external, I think it should be internal first. Marriage doesn’t erase dysfunction, it magnifies it. That’s why what’s unhealed gets repeated, especially when there’s no accountability.
What bothered me most was how little ownership anyone took. Everyone was “unfulfilled” but no one was asking, “What’s it like to be married to me?” That’s the question that separates mature couples from messy ones. I just think that it takes maturity to ask not what your spouse isn’t doing, but how you’re contributing to the tension.
I don’t think people leave marriages because they’re unhappy. I mean, some do. But I think many leave because they’re uncomfortable with themselves in the mirror marriage holds up. It’s easier to start over than to face your own emotional patterns and fix what’s really broken. I dunno, I just think that marriage reflects you back to yourself? Like, if you haven’t done the inner work, it can be unbearable to face your flaws daily in the eyes of someone who sees all of it.
That’s why I turned it off. I don’t do reality shows where people make a mockery of covenant and call it “working on things.” Growth takes self-awareness, not camera time. I just see marriage as sacred, and watching people parade their dysfunction for entertainment feels disrespectful to that ideal. So, I take marriage very seriously, because it was how I was raised based on how I saw my parents treat each other. How I saw my dad treat my mom, of course I’m going to choose that in a spouse. So, to me marriage isn’t content, it’s commitment. Growth happens in private, not on camera. They were all too much, lol.
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