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It does hurt to be cut so harshly. Panhellenic often leads PNMs down a primrose path by using language that makes them think they are in the driver's seat during recruitment. A very small number of PNMs are but for the huge majority, this is not true.
What many of us who have worked with sororities for years see is that a university may have, say, 16 sororities and a woman is cut by 4, so she drops. Or she is cut by all the "top tier" groups and doesn't want middle-tier so she drops. The thing is, a lot of these women who get deeply cut might have expected it if forewarned. They had lower grades (sometimes under a 3.5) or didn't know anyone in the sororities beforehand or are from out of state. Yes, these things may matter and so may others.
There's always some clueless idiot in online groups who's telling other moms, "Sure your daughter can get a top tier bid without knowing anyone, mine did!" (Often we know where that daughter is Greek and no, she did not.) Or she'll tell other moms that a low GPA is not the kiss of death and on some campuses, it may be.
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