Question about Rec Ltrs

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

To me, it's a red flag when someone from a city with an alum group reaches out that far. But most kids have no idea there's an alum group of anything in there town. I'd send her back to her hometown alum group.
Now, that group that won't write one without knowing here....I understand, but it wouldn't take much effort to inquire among one's friends and find someone who does know her. If I can find someone who knows the candidate and will be candid about their opinion, and I trust them, that's good enough for me.
That's how I write my recs because, at my age, I RARELY know any of the PNMs from my town.

I can see how one might think something is up if a girl asks for a rec from out of town. I can tell you here in Naples, the Alumnae Panhellenic is not at all supportive of recs. They remain in their little "ladies lunch" bubble and do nothing with the community. They do offer some small scholarships for girls who will be rushing, which always blew my mind. It seemed to me it would make more sense to support girls who are members of sororities, rather than girls who might or might not pledge. A sorority sister and I offered to start a recruitment workshop outreach program for the AP and were shot down.
So maybe the 3 hours away PNM encountered a local Alumnae Panhellenic similar to the one here in Naples. In that instance, I might share the name of a sorority sister in her city that she could reach out to.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

I would love an updated list of who is doing what...traditional forms, self introductions, references/introduction forms from anyone including non-members, etc. I just got my first rec request tonight, and it's apparent that well-intentioned mom is about 2 years out of date on the current expectations/rec processes and isn't aware there have been changes for many groups.

The only one I've found who isn't taking any kind of rec at all is Phi Mu.
I posted a list, which may or may not be totally accurate, on Facebook on the Alabama Sorority Recruitment Parents page, in the FiLES section. You'll have to request to join.

[Cheerio]

Something that reminded me of my age today:

I recall (mumble) years ago sending an informational sorority recruitment rec, for a woman I personally knew, directly to the greek life office of a major university. This was done because our NPC had no chapter at said school, and this rec would thus be made available to every greek group on campus that went to their greek life office and looked at it (some may have had a policy never to read unsolicited/non-member written recs).

I imagine with the explosion of social media that what I did back then is unheard of and unnecessary today.