Legacy dropped R1 recruitment

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by GoGoolia

She wants to go through it again after she gets a better idea of the houses and not just based off a video or when she actually gets to meet them in person.

I think a lot of PNMs get the idea that they have a big choice at the beginning of recruitment.
They really don't.
The weight of choice is on the sororities' side for most of rush. They're the ones releasing PNMs. Certainly a PNM can express her preference, but that comes way down AFTER the sororities release or don't - that's why "unwanted" sororities keep showing up.
About the only time that a PNM's choice reigns supreme is when she ranks her pref day choices.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

I think a lot of PNMs get the idea that they have a big choice at the beginning of recruitment.
They really don't.
The weight of choice is on the sororities' side for most of rush. They're the ones releasing PNMs. Certainly a PNM can express her preference, but that comes way down AFTER the sororities release or don't - that's why "unwanted" sororities keep showing up.
About the only time that a PNM's choice reigns supreme is when she ranks her pref day choices.

THIS THIS THIS! If any PNMs or their moms are reading, please note this! The material that Panhellenic passes out seems to suggest that you can just waltz right in and happily select your favorite.

[AnchorAlumna]

I know my sorority has eliminated the requirement to contact the legacy connection.
There simply isn't time. And what are they going to say? "We hated your daughter?" Of course not. All they can say is, "Sorry." And they'll never give you a reason. They may not even know - she just came up short in the numbers.

[carnation]

I have heard that a lot of people who made those calls were verbally attacked by the mother or sister.

[AOIIalum]

Originally Posted by carnation

I have heard that a lot of people who made those calls were verbally attacked by the mother or sister.

I've lived it, and it is not pleasant.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

I know my sorority has eliminated the requirement to contact the legacy connection.
There simply isn't time. And what are they going to say? "We hated your daughter?" Of course not. All they can say is, "Sorry." And they'll never give you a reason. They may not even know - she just came up short in the numbers.

I would think that an email should suffice, rather than a phone call.