What Not to Say to a Released PNM

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Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

Some PNMs are so fabulous that I think they get dropped because everybody thought their sorority would never have a chance with her.

This too.

A lot of "She is not going to return here, her sister is DG." Or "Her mom is AZD, she's probably not interested in us."

I always try to remind collegians that connections are not always an indicator of interest. You never know how connected that PNM is to a sorority.

Ex: Yeah she may have an AZD aunt who wrote her a rec but sometimes it's just a courtesy and that PNM has no preference for AZD above any other chapter. Or an Alpha Chi Omega . grandma but they really just found out and it has no prevalence in the PNM's life.

That's different from say, a PNM whose mother is a former DZ chapter advisor and who grew up at sorority events. Different connection levels.

Many times, PNMs ARE legit trying to be open-minded because knowing someone is a XXXXX alumna on paper has no bearing on their decisions.