Should you join a "lower tier" sorority?

[WregleXO]

I know a very sweet girl who went through rush twice at her college - her mother had determined what the “top” sororities were on campus and had convinced her daughter that she had to be a member of one of those groups. Each year after she was cut by the “top” groups, daughter would drop out - even though she was still being invited to parties to the groups that her mother deemed not good enough. After her second rush, her mother actually asked me what schools she could transfer to and go through rush as a junior. Luckily she did not go through with the transfer. And the mother quit talking to me after she didn’t need me to write another rec.

[NYCMS]

Originally Posted by WregleXO

I know a very sweet girl who went through rush twice at her college - her mother had determined what the “top” sororities were on campus and had convinced her daughter that she had to be a member of one of those groups. Each year after she was cut by the “top” groups, daughter would drop out - even though she was still being invited to parties to the groups that her mother deemed not good enough. After her second rush, her mother actually asked me what schools she could transfer to and go through rush as a junior. Luckily she did not go through with the transfer. And the mother quit talking to me after she didn’t need me to write another rec.

Is this young woman now out of college? If so, how has she handled being on her own? Because when I see mamas like that, I cringe at the difficulty their children will have into becoming an adult and having to make their own decisions.