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What does commitment mean? I think that to an extent, you have to be
committed to your relationship, but to me at least, the first thing in my life is
commitment to *myself* and my happiness. I can't be committed to anything
else if I'm not happy in my own heart and mine.
Committment to me means, that when you enter something you'll stay for better or worse. And, no I'm not talking about abuse or anything. As JAM said in another thread, life is composed of tides. And, so are relationships, not every thing will be good all the time. A lot of folks leave relationships, when things get less than perfect thinking it will stay thay way forever.
I agree that to an extent, marriage is based upon sacrifice. But you can go to
the extreme on anything...yes, there are things you sacrifice for the greater good
of a marriage. However, I think there comes a point where enough is enough. I at
least don't want to go through life sacrificing so much of myself for a relationship
that there is nothing left of me. Maybe I am selfish (I probably am) but I truly
believe that unless you put yourself first, you are really no good to anyone else.
Also, with sacrifice there must be balance, because if one person is sacrificing a
lot and the other isn't, it's really unfair and bound to lead to trouble.
Sorry, I left that out. Sacrifice DEFINATELY should be mutual!
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