The importance of conversation/personality during recruitment

[Remiechi]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Shy girls are total gems in the rough if you can pull them out of the shell or see their potential but usually there is not enough time.

I have a relative who just went through deferred recruitment and KSUViolet is right, there was just not enough time for her to come out of her shell.
She is "total package" but extremely reserved and waits to assess a situation before she dives in. She was cut harshly after the first round and was left with her two least favorites after second, so dropped from the process. I warned her to ignore tent talk but she was overwhelmed, disappointed and discouraged.
I think RFM is great for the chapters but maybe not so beneficial for our shy girls who need just a little more time to be able to shine.

[GreekOne]

Originally Posted by Remiechi

I have a relative who just went through deferred recruitment and KSUViolet is right, there was just not enough time for her to come out of her shell.
She is "total package" but extremely reserved and waits to assess a situation before she dives in. She was cut harshly after the first round and was left with her two least favorites after second, so dropped from the process. I warned her to ignore tent talk but she was overwhelmed, disappointed and discouraged.
I think RFM is great for the chapters but maybe not so beneficial for our shy girls who need just a little more time to be able to shine.

Sounds like she would do much better during Informal recruitment where the pace and pressure are not so overwhelming. If that is offered on her campus, you might want to encourage her to give that a try.

[Remiechi]

Originally Posted by GreekOne

Sounds like she would do much better during Informal recruitment where the pace and pressure are not so overwhelming. If that is offered on her campus, you might want to encourage her to give that a try.

GreekOne, she just told me she's planning on participating in fall Informal, and is aware that her options may very well be the two chapters she had left when she withdrew from Formal. She is looking forward to getting to know those chapters better. I'm proud of her maturity yet also frustrated that the tent talk of Formal really got to her. There are truly no "bad" or "weak" chapters at her university, so I hope they give her another chance.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Remiechi

She was cut harshly after the first round and was left with her two least favorites after second, so dropped from the process. I warned her to ignore tent talk but she was overwhelmed, disappointed and discouraged.
I think RFM is great for the chapters but maybe not so beneficial for our shy girls who need just a little more time to be able to shine.

Even if she would have had the time to get more comfortable, a lot of the super popular chapters can be a very high octane environment, and she might have constantly felt like she was trying to keep up. Getting the bid is only half the battle.

That is part of the point of deferred rush - to give women a chance to get used to the campus community and to meet Greek women outside of the artificial atmosphere of rush.