Dropped my sorority...can I be resinstated @ my new school?

[clemsongirl]

Keep in mind OP that the Tri Delt chapter you joined is going to be different from the Tri Delt chapters at the schools you're looking at. It's nice to have affection for the national org, but what was a good fit at one school may not be at another.

[MSKKG]

One of my HS classmates pledged Tri Delta at another university before transferring to Ole Miss. She was never initiated into Tri Delta, rushed again at Ole Miss, and pledged Kappa. She was actually a Tri Delta legacy through her older sister. I'm not sure if she felt that Kappa was a better fit for her (a number of friends were in the chapter) or if Tri Delta released her, but she was initiated into Kappa at Ole Miss. Another sister is a Chi Omega from the same university as the Tri Delta sister, a SIL (now deceased) was an AOII from Ole Miss. Not sure if any other sororities are represented in their family, but that's the beginning of their own Panhellenic!

I agree with Xidelt, TXDG, and clemsongirl. Good luck if you decide to go through recruitment again.

[reginaphalangee]

Originally Posted by MSKKG

One of my HS classmates pledged Tri Delta at another university before transferring to Ole Miss. She was never initiated into Tri Delta, rushed again at Ole Miss, and pledged Kappa. She was actually a Tri Delta legacy through her older sister. I'm not sure if she felt that Kappa was a better fit for her (a number of friends were in the chapter) or if Tri Delta released her, but she was initiated into Kappa at Ole Miss. Another sister is a Chi Omega from the same university as the Tri Delta sister, a SIL (now deceased) was an AOII from Ole Miss. Not sure if any other sororities are represented in their family, but that's the beginning of their own Panhellenic!

I agree with Xidelt, TXDG, and clemsongirl. Good luck if you decide to go through recruitment again.

Oh wow. That’s so cool!! See I just wasn’t sure if that was common. So, would it be appropriate for me to even bring up the fact that I pledged tri delta once I go through recruitment again or no? Thank you for sharing!! I find that to be extremely fascinating :-)

[MSKKG]

Originally Posted by reginaphalangee

Oh wow. That’s so cool!! See I just wasn’t sure if that was common. So, would it be appropriate for me to even bring up the fact that I pledged tri delta once I go through recruitment again or no? Thank you for sharing!! I find that to be extremely fascinating :-)

Someone else with more knowledge, please jump in here. My first thought is that whoever writes a rec for you might mention that you pledged Tri Delta at your previous university, so the chapters would find out that way. If your rec writers let their sororities know that you are going through with an open mind, I don't think your prior pledging should be a problem. Please do go through with an open mind and maximize your options--bloom where you're planted!

You could also be vague and mention that you pledged a sorority at your previous university, enjoyed sorority life and wanted to be a part of it again, and were so excited to have a chance to get involved in sorority life at your current university. I think your circumstance is not as rare as you think. Be polite at all parties (I'm sure you would be anyway!). Good luck finding your home, whether it is with Tri Delta again or a different sorority!

[AnchorAlumna]

Anybody looking at your Facebook page (and they WILL check it out) will see you in DDD regalia, so you should explain it on your registration info.

[reginaphalangee]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

Anybody looking at your Facebook page (and they WILL check it out) will see you in DDD regalia, so you should explain it on your registration info.

I never posted anything about sorority life on social media, and especially not facebook. And as far as regalia, I don’t think that will be an issue. Considering my name is not affiliated with DDD whatsoever! At least that is what they told me when I dropped.

[reginaphalangee]

Originally Posted by MSKKG

Someone else with more knowledge, please jump in here. My first thought is that whoever writes a rec for you might mention that you pledged Tri Delta at your previous university, so the chapters would find out that way. If your rec writers let their sororities know that you are going through with an open mind, I don't think your prior pledging should be a problem. Please do go through with an open mind and maximize your options--bloom where you're planted!

You could also be vague and mention that you pledged a sorority at your previous university, enjoyed sorority life and wanted to be a part of it again, and were so excited to have a chance to get involved in sorority life at your current university. I think your circumstance is not as rare as you think. Be polite at all parties (I'm sure you would be anyway!). Good luck finding your home, whether it is with Tri Delta again or a different sorority!

Got it. Although, now I don’t think I wanna rush again. The treatment I have received since I dropped has been utterly disgusting, and has left an extremely bad taste in my mouth in regards to greek life. Which ik is stupid because greek life at all schools are totally different. And it sucks because I have had absolutely nothing but wonderful things to say about it, but this aftermath has just changed my mind completely!!! If I do choose to rush again, I pray to God that I DO NOT get DDD!! Done with that!!!!

[33girl]

You're right, it is stupid. You have only dealt with one chapter of one sorority at one school. You might go thru rush at your new school, get DDD again, and have a perfect fit. Or you might fit in another sorority. At any rate, make sure you can afford whatever you get into. Hopefully the reduced tuition will alleviate that issue.

I’m not sure what sort of “aftermath” you are referring to, but if you were told that you are no longer part of the DDD chapter at your current school, it’s nothing personal, it’s just the letter of the law, as it were. Once you terminate your pledgeship or initiated membership, it is indeed as if you never existed in the sorority. I’m sorry if that sounds harsh or cold to you but it’s the truth. Especially nowadays when risk management is such an issue. You can’t be a guest at mixers or functions.

Were you clear with ALL the members about the fact that you’re transferring due to financial reasons, and wouldn’t be there next semester even if you did initiate?

[Alpha O]

Originally Posted by carnation

I wouldn't bring it up that you pledged DDD. The sororities might think you might quit again.

Agreed.

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

Anybody looking at your Facebook page (and they WILL check it out) will see you in DDD regalia, so you should explain it on your registration info.

She could just untag herself from all the social media photos she is tagged in that feature DDD's events or the DDD PC and take down any that she uploaded herself. Easy peasy.

[reginaphalangee]

Originally Posted by clemsongirl

Keep in mind OP that the Tri Delt chapter you joined is going to be different from the Tri Delt chapters at the schools you're looking at. It's nice to have affection for the national org, but what was a good fit at one school may not be at another.

You know, I never even thought about it like that. I guess I’m just scared of what my tri delt friends might think, which I guess shouldn’t really matter. I’m definitely going to keep this in mind!!! Thank you!