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Originally Posted by laceyPNM
I’m afraid that I’ll go through again and be released just like the last time. Both events at the sororities I had Sisterhood Night with the night before I was released were amazing. The events went flawlessly, and I honestly thought that I was *almost* guaranteed a spot at one of them. I’m an outgoing person, so personality and conversation is never an issue, but I suppose it could come across as fake even though it’s not.
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First, stop worrying and fixating on last year. I know that's easier said than done, but the more you fixate on what didn't work and what might go wrong, the more you will unconsciously trip yourself up - your energy will be tense and nervous during rush and that doesn't bode well for any PNM.
Second, actives are skilled at making everyone feel welcome and wanted - that's their job in making each PNM want their sorority. So while you may have thought the parties went well, please consider that while you enjoyed them, the members you spoke with must have felt otherwise (or not strongly enough to go to bat for you), hence your being released. I'm reminded of when I've gone on job interviews - invariably the ones I thought went fantastic did not...no second round. Rush can be like that too.
I agree with another poster - work on your conversation skills and the general impression you give off to people. Do you hog the conversation? (I recall girls who did and they were easily cut) Do you know how to gracefully carry a conversation that leaves people feeling warm and glad to have talked with you? Do you give off a desperate, nervous energy? (sure way to be cut). What's your overall look? It's not about being a beauty queen, but having a fresh, modern and polished look - from your clothes to shoes to hair/makeup and jewelry. If you need help, go to a store with cute clothes and get help from someone who works there. Same for hair/makeup/etc. Looks do matter, that's the first impression anyone has of us.
Work on that and then try to just have fun during rush - be detached as much as possible.
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