Protecting your sorority from evil...

[carnation]

Here's what I want to know. When you know for real that someone would be a risk management nightmare (or whatever) to the Greek system, do you share this with other Greeks who don't need the risk either?

With the one who urinated in the street and filmed it--a member from another sorority called me and warned me that the girl was going to invitationals in my chapter and I was most appreciative. With the one who attacked the camp director, one of my Greek daughters who also witnessed it warned me that Attacker was rushing. I didn't tell any other Greeks and even though the girl was released after first parties, the college president called a sorority with one spot left and jollied them into taking her. Within a few weeks, she was kicked out of her sorority for sucker-punching a sister. We found out later that she had a police record.

So what's the best road to take when you have proof? Tell? Don't tell?

[AnchorAlumna]

On my day to day travels, I don't interact with a lot of people, especially sorority women (hence my love for Facebook), so I don't have a chance. but if I do have an opportunity, I will gladly pass the word. Others have passed the word to me and I'm grateful.

[mkaytay]

I had a girl that was about 6 years behind me from church ask me for a rec to a school in my state, and I knew she was a huge bully (the church had to ask that her parents not send her on any overnight trips unless one of them would attend with her it got so bad). I wrote a do not recommend for my chapter, and since it was a school in my state (I didn't go there myself)I passed the word onto friends who were alums for some of the other chapters.

I know a couple sent notes to the recruitment chair and I think one sent in an actual do not rec, but I don't know what I would have done if I didn't know alums from the actual school to talk to. She joined a chapter going through their first recruitment after colonizing, and is still there, but I don't know how her behavior has been. Maybe she grew up in college, but I'm glad my chapter didn't have to deal with the potential issues.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by carnation

So what's the best road to take when you have proof? Tell? Don't tell?

TELL! Discreetly, of course. That's why I write nothing down. Just a note saying CALL ME. Written in red, circled, underlined, and starred***.
Why run the risk if you don't tell? And if you don't tell, they won't know.

[honeychile]

I would surely appreciate an alumna sister taking the time to keep someone of any ill repute ("a little racist", a thief, a bully) from my sorority; I'd like to think that others feel the same.