Indiana University Recruitment 2018

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by PNMmom18

I truly understand that nothing was promised or assumed from being a legacy. I do not believe in the everybody gets a trophy approach and the process is equally brutal for everyone. I was just simply sharing my families experience. My older daughter graduated 2 yrs ago from IU. She got cut from a house she loved right before preference. I wasn’t looking for anyone to fix the situation. I was just venting in an arena I felt could understand. Thank you to all the ones who sent kind messages and encouragement, I wish all your girls the best moving forward.

PNMmom, we get it. We really do. My own remarks were intended to give useful information regarding the general topic of legacies and invites for all PNMs for those who aren't in NPC sororities or who haven't been involved since college (and boy have things changed since I went through rush, when God was a baby). I don't see that anyone was trying to fix, or give trophies. I don't see that you were whining or even venting. What I saw was this:

When you have children, a piece of your heart goes walking around outside your body for the rest of your life. So it goes that you're (we're all actually) hurting for your (our) children. My Buddhist practice emphasizes compassion and loving kindness and mindfulness. It also places suffering smack dab in the forefront of my life experience. I'd like to skip the suffering. Unfortunately, not an option.

Hoping that your daughter finds a home and a lifetime of membership joys. Hoping that for everyone.

And again, it's Indiana. Glacial pace - but moving. I'll take it. The Grand Canyon took a long time, too.

[GLE23]

Originally Posted by AZTheta

PNMmom, we get it. We really do. My own remarks were intended to give useful information regarding the general topic of legacies and invites for all PNMs for those who aren't in NPC sororities or who haven't been involved since college (and boy have things changed since I went through rush, when God was a baby). I don't see that anyone was trying to fix, or give trophies. I don't see that you were whining or even venting. What I saw was this:

When you have children, a piece of your heart goes walking around outside your body for the rest of your life. So it goes that you're (we're all actually) hurting for your (our) children. My Buddhist practice emphasizes compassion and loving kindness and mindfulness. It also places suffering smack dab in the forefront of my life experience. I'd like to skip the suffering. Unfortunately, not an option.

Hoping that your daughter finds a home and a lifetime of membership joys. Hoping that for everyone.

And again, it's Indiana. Glacial pace - but moving. I'll take it. The Grand Canyon took a long time, too.

So true about hurting and wanting for our children. All my emotions since January 3 have been because I feel so deeply for my daughter and want so badly for her what she wants for herself. That's because I'm her Mom. And, I cannot just give her a big hug. On pins and needles today because she's on pins and needles. Good luck to all our daughters, and sending virtual hugs t all the moms.

[lyrespearls]

[When you have children, a piece of your heart goes walking around outside your body for the rest of your life. So it goes that you're (we're all actually) hurting for your (our) children.
And again, it's Indiana. Glacial pace - but moving. I'll take it. The Grand Canyon took a long time, too.[/QUOTE]

You captured this beautifully and the glacial pace/Grand Canyon analogy brought a giggle for sure!

[GreekOne]

Originally Posted by lyrespearls

[When you have children, a piece of your heart goes walking around outside your body for the rest of your life. So it goes that you're (we're all actually) hurting for your (our) children.
And again, it's Indiana. Glacial pace - but moving. I'll take it. The Grand Canyon took a long time, too.

You captured this beautifully and the glacial pace/Grand Canyon analogy brought a giggle for sure![/QUOTE]

"So true about hurting and wanting for our children. All my emotions since January 3 have been because I feel so deeply for my daughter and want so badly for her what she wants for herself. That's because I'm her Mom. And, I cannot just give her a big hug. On pins and needles today because she's on pins and needles. Good luck to all our daughters, and sending virtual hugs t all the moms."

Yes to all of this for sure! Pins and needles here.