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Here at UT Austin, recruitment is an art.
On pref night, rho chis tell PNMs that they should let their top choice know where they want to be on bid day. While there is nothing wrong with this per say, it can have some negative side effects.
Problems arise when PNMs interact with a house they don't want. At UT, actives will ask PNMs "if they have a difficult decision" or "if they can see themselves coming back." I know a girl that told her legacy house that they would miss her come bid day. Not only is that super rude, but it messed things up for her when her legacy house was forced to issue her a bid, as she was there on pref night. Word had gotten around about what she said, and much of the chapter was very wary of her.
There are much better ways to hand a situation. A simple "I think ya'll are really great, but I found my home somewhere else," is so much more eloquent. Not to mention less arrogant and less insulting.
But there are also girls who are so stand offish that its painful to interact with them. That almost worse. As least when a girl lets an active know how she's feeling, it takes the pressure off the active to gauge or persuade her. Plus, girls do talk. If anyone is rude in a house people will generally find out rather quickly.
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