Something needs to change

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by NerdyGreek

Bid Day should be more joyful than it is. (I watched a video of one of the other houses on her campus on Bid Day where the recruitment chair is reading the list of bids to actives and there aren't a lot of smiles and cheers. It's a lot of stone faces, questioning looks and a few "who?" are visible. Dissatisfaction is on both sides.)

That is quite surprising, that someone posted a video of that. Bear in mind those actives are exhausted and sleep deprived, just for starters. I wouldn't go so far as to say "dissatisfaction is on both sides", but that's my experience based on decades of volunteering. I don't remember cheers or much energy at all. Everyone was wiped out.

Not sure what campus your daughter is at. At many large campuses (Alabama, Arizona come to mind and I know there are many others) there is a publication which lists, among other things, the typical costs for each chapter. The Arizona publication is called "The Bond". I saw the one for Alabama and was impressed.

[NerdyGreek]

Originally Posted by AZTheta

Not sure what campus your daughter is at. At many large campuses (Alabama, Arizona come to mind and I know there are many others) there is a publication which lists, among other things, the typical costs for each chapter. The Arizona publication is called "The Bond". I saw the one for Alabama and was impressed.

I would love to see something like this at every school. It's kinda hush-hush on my daughter's campus. They were shown a sheet during rush, but were not allowed to keep a copy of it or even study it for a long time. We talked after every round and she couldn't remember a single figure on that sheet on the day she was shown it. One of the houses did take to asking questions about father's occupation, whether or not the student had a car on campus, and if so, what type. I'm guessing that was to weed out girls that they thought couldn't afford their dues.

The fees at this school run way above national average. My daughter's bill for first semester (not living in the house) is just a tiny bit shy of $2000. Others are over $2500. They must eat meals at the house, but cannot change the campus meal plan they've bought that's required when living in the dorms. We're in serious "Is it worth it?" discussions right now. If she really liked the house, rather than just a handful of girls in her pledge class, I think we wouldn't be questioning it so much.

[carnation]

Is this an SEC school?

[DGTess]

Originally Posted by AZTheta

Bear in mind those actives are exhausted and sleep deprived, just for starters.

Hmmmmmmm.....

I thought that was considered hazing.

[PearlGirl13]

Originally Posted by DGTess

Hmmmmmmm.....

I thought that was considered hazing.

What she means is that the actives aren't getting enough sleep - up early to get ready, a full day of parties followed by member selection, practice for the next round, dinner, socializing with their sisters (add a dash of Netflix and social media surfing but not posting) and finally to bed only to do it all again the following day.

What she does not mean is that someone is depriving or forbidding these women from going to bed. That would be hazing.