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[Remiechi]

I'm not sure whether this has been mentioned yet, but the bid list order is typically known to only a select few members and advisors; 99% of the members participating in prefs do not know where their PNM is on the list. They're preffing a girl who they've gotten to know during the week and probably would love to see as a sister, so are doing their best to convince them that this is the best chapter for them. Even the chapters with the highest returns don't know exactly how far down into the bid list it will take to make quota, so they treat each PNM at prefs equally and give them the best possible experience. If I had to guess, maybe your daughter was preffed by a sophomore who just got carried away by the excitement and emotions of the day, and spoke out of turn.