Transferring schools while in a fraternity

[cooljon525]

I really appreciate all your feedback.

I am really torn on what to do. The school I want to transfer to is really big on greek life and I do wanna stay in the fraternity I am in. It is making my decision to transfer a lot harder because I have 3 more years of college and my fraternity has had such a positive impact on my life thus far. If I do transfer, I will for sure meet with the guys of AEPi and hopefully they will let me in. My friends in that chapter told me not to get my hopes up though because they hate transfer students and feel like they are just tag alongs. I believe that if they do reject me, they'll give me the option to re-pledge which I would not want to do since I've already gone through the tough process once.

I understand people who think it is completely unloyal to quit a fraternity and join another one but there are two sides of the story. It is also unfair for a person to not be able to join his own fraternity at a different school and then be expected to stay in that fraternity, declare alumni status, and not join another one. It doesn't make sense to me.

I don't see what choice I would have other than renouncing my membership and looking for a fraternity that would accept me. Many people online, however, say that most people would not bid someone who has been in another fraternity. If I do renounce my membership, would I be required to let guys know during rush that I've been in another fraternity even if i'm no longer a member? I believe that even if guys heard my story, they would understand.

I know I haven't even gotten voted out yet so I may turn out fine but I believe that my friends are right on this issue and that my chances will be very low of getting in. Ultimately this problem is really making me want to stay at my current school but it would be a complete shame to turn down a better education in my field just because of my fraternity issue.