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Longtime lurker and mom of a DD who survived the awful snowy IU recruitment of 2014. Reading all of these posts has brought back a lot of memories...I just want to share my daughter's story in the hopes that it might help you to have the right words for your girl tonight. I was able to have them 3 years ago thanks to the wisdom of the women on this site so I'm passing it on.
My DD got a bid from her third choice in a perceived "lower" tier house - yes, she had three to pref and I know it's lucky but to her at that moment it was the end of the world. Thanks to all of you, I had the words to tell her. That this house saw in her something the others didn't - they saw her as a sister. That it was a good thing her house took so many new PNM's- they were giving more girls a chance to be Greek. Like it or not, tiers play a huge part in IU recruitment and to me, that's as big of a problem as bed rush. The tiers determine pairs for parties, HC, Little 5 and more and they determine the reputation of a house on campus. And to young impressionable 18-year-olds wanting to belong, tiers become over-inflated.
Fast forward to today...my daughter is a senior in her house and lives with 10 of her sisters. She couldn't imagine having been anywhere else and has made lifelong friends. She was so worked up over her lower tier bid that she almost didn't accept it...that would have changed her entire experience at IU. I encouraged her to give it a shot...that it was her chance to be Greek and she went the first night. She wasn't sure, but she went back and back again and again and here we are today. Over the moon with her house, sisters and so sad that it's coming to and end.
I wish you all the best news tonight - hang in there, moms!
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