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To avoid editing my post...the reason the personal connections stuck with her is that her freshman year, she went to a fraternity party the week before recruitment started. She didn't drink, she went with some girls on her dorm floor, and she had (still has) a boyfriend so she wasn't looking for guys, but she didn't know people there and the first experience the sorority women had with her was at a party with "their" fraternity men. They knew each other, she didn't know any of them, and that wasn't the place for a first meeting. The two hallmates she went with also had rough recruitments (one was cut completely and one dropped). She knew she shouldn't go, I reminded her that going was a mistake, and she went anyway. Did it hurt her? She'll never know for certain but she'll tell you now (and does tell anyone who asks) that going to that party was a mistake.
She gave the advice to a friend this year who was also a sophomore transfer and told her about her experience last year. Friend didn't listen either and is now bidless-as a sophomore with an even more limited opportunity to try again. Again, can't prove it had anything to do with it but when the only affects of an action will be neutral or negative, it's usually not a smart action to take.
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