2016 Missouri Fall Rush

[WalkintheWoods]

Originally Posted by kcmom

DD2 got 8 out of 11 possible invites. She is perfectly fine with that as her two top picks are still on the list. She did get dropped by two that she really thought she would be happy with. Her sister has told her that the houses can identify who fits in better than you can. Only one that she didn't rank top 11 showed up on her schedule. A few of the houses she thought might work out aren't on her list. However when talking last night one house emphasized that all girls are involved in more activities/ groups on campus than just the sorority, and she isn't enthusiastic about that. She is focused on grades and making sure her activities don't detract. So we concluded that it wouldn't be a great fit, but she really liked the girls so she still ranked it as a 1. My girls claim to be very different, but they really are more similar than they think. The same houses that DD1 couldn't understand dropping her also dropped DD2. In some part that may be because she doesn't fit, but also they are also houses that know DD1 and the legacy thing may be playing a role. We shall see how the next two days go. One great thing about this recruitment is the opportunity to discuss how things went. She's usually not that talkative but kept me on the phone for 1 1/2 hours last night. I am really impressed by her insight and her maturity in this process. A completely different vibe than DD1 who was hit harder by the disappointment. ( DD1 usually had gotten everything she wanted in HS and was a very social popular girl in HS. DD2 is more of the reserved, few friends and less confident.)

Wonderful news all around kcmom! Very glad both for her good results and also for her philosophical approach. Sounds like she learned from her sister's experience and is taking it all in stride. Good for her (and for you, that she talked to you for 90 minutes last night! That must have felt great). Good luck to DD2 in philanthropy round! Thank you for the update.

[NorthernMom]

I think there is truth in that the chapters know better who will fit in. My daughter, in hindsight, sees that 2 of her day 1 favorites, would not have been a good long term fit for her. She loves her chapter and I don't think can imagine herself elsewhere now.

I'm not saying it's a perfect system. Nothing ever could be. And it's hard when girls are disappointed. But life is full of disappointments....along with high moments and successes.

Can't wait to hear how the rest of the week goes. I know my daughter already found a "rush crush" on the first day ;-)

[DubaiSis]

On the news in KC right now: 2 dorms are closed at Mizzou because of that big of a drop in students. Hard to imagine.

[mumom]

I'm glad your DD2 is being so positive and looking at each house's sisterhood carefully. It's all that really matters! Keep us informed we are all pulling for her AND you!

[FSUZeta]

Continued good wishes for your daughter!

[NorthernMom]

Oh yes...it is good that the dining halls are now open! I remember that being kind of a drag.

Sounds like things are going well for her!!

[WalkintheWoods]

Thanks for the update kcmom! Sounds like DD2 is sailing through with her positive, laid back attitude. Good for her.

[mumom]

That BBQ dinner is fun! Glad she is positive. Makes such a difference with how stressful it can be!

[mo4282]

I noticed that the Preference Round will be limited to no more than 2 houses visited on Saturday instead of the usual limit of 3 which is what they have done in year's past. Does anyone know why they changed it to two houses and whether that increases PNM's chances of matching?

[DubaiSis]

I don't know in this particular case, but I think the thinking is that girls are ok with getting second of two choices but tend to be unhappy when they get third of three. With RFM being what it is, you don't NEED a third option to guarantee your match, so it's ok. It just means they get cut harder earlier.

[WalkintheWoods]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

I don't know in this particular case, but I think the thinking is that girls are ok with getting second of two choices but tend to be unhappy when they get third of three. With RFM being what it is, you don't NEED a third option to guarantee your match, so it's ok. It just means they get cut harder earlier.

That makes sense. They've been doing this at Wash U in St. Louis for awhile and it seems to work well.

[kcmom]

Well this morning, DD2 got her list for sisterhood round and only had 2 houses. Although after she visited the 7 over the last two days she had decided that she really only felt comfortable at one house, it still is a bit of an ego buster to feel like the houses don't want you even if you don't want them. There were quite a few in her group that were already dropped completely. Some of the girls still had full schedules. I told her she would be taking the opportunity to visit away from someone who really loves that house. And if they don't see her fitting in (apparently mutually) then they don't want to waste a pref invitation if they don't see her choosing them. She said that nothing was really bad about the visits, but that the conversation wasn't natural and didn't flow. A lot of the houses she had are known for super involved students and that isn't what DD2 did in HS or intends to do in college. She wants to be involved in sorority and school only. Maybe a club in her major but not til she gets settled in and sees how she fares with this load. Anyway, apparently she has a lot in common with DD1. She felt the same way and fretted about what if she doesn't get the one she wants. So she has turned in her pref list and is hoping she gets one pref invitation for tomorrow. Fingers crossed.

[WalkintheWoods]

Originally Posted by kcmom

Well this morning, DD2 got her list for sisterhood round and only had 2 houses. Although after she visited the 7 over the last two days she had decided that she really only felt comfortable at one house, it still is a bit of an ego buster to feel like the houses don't want you even if you don't want them. There were quite a few in her group that were already dropped completely. Some of the girls still had full schedules. I told her she would be taking the opportunity to visit away from someone who really loves that house. And if they don't see her fitting in (apparently mutually) then they don't want to waste a pref invitation if they don't see her choosing them. She said that nothing was really bad about the visits, but that the conversation wasn't natural and didn't flow. A lot of the houses she had are known for super involved students and that isn't what DD2 did in HS or intends to do in college. She wants to be involved in sorority and school only. Maybe a club in her major but not til she gets settled in and sees how she fares with this load. Anyway, apparently she has a lot in common with DD1. She felt the same way and fretted about what if she doesn't get the one she wants. So she has turned in her pref list and is hoping she gets one pref invitation for tomorrow. Fingers crossed.

It's always so hard to get cut, even if she wouldn't have wanted any of those other houses. She's so lucky to have your very good advice and encouragement. DD2 is so clear on who she is and what she wants, which is terrific. I know that is going to serve her well (in life, not just recruitment!) Fingers crossed with you for tomorrow that she gets invited back to the house she wants. Thank you for letting us know how she is doing!

[kcmom]

Yes, she has her legacy house and it is the one that she wants. Thank goodness for this website and all the advice it has given me so that I can pass it on to her. This is a fantastic resource for non-Greek parents!

[kcmom]

The word is that the cuts after the philanthropy round will be very deep dropping by about another half or 2/3 depending on your house return rates.