My point wasn't so much about what she said, but that it is hearsay. No, you shouldn't always let things go, but I do pause before acting on what I hear through someone else vs what I hear directly.
Last edited by DZ_Turtle86; 07-13-2016 at 11:05 AM.
Perhaps this is a bit of a cautionary tale to only issue recs for people we meet in person - no matter how glowing the opinion of the person who introduces them to us. Snowing someone via keyboard is far too easy.
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It is all 33girl's fault. ~DrPhil
Agree with 33. I have been asked for recs by some women whose paperwork looked good but they had major personality problems that could really screw up a chapter.
As alumnae my mother and I have both been in the same situation in which we had to not recommend a pnm or contact the rush chair/advisor directly to share our concerns.
If you are not comfortable writing a recommendation don't do it or as suggested earlier, contact the chapter to withdraw your rec.
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