Multiple Q's: Medical leave, letters of support...

[worriedpnm]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

IMO the person who knows you the best is going to be the best rec.

I think I could have that pinned down (very good friend at other school who's in a sorority that allows collegian recs) for one sorority, but it seems like for others, I'd have to look for recs from those who don't know me personally. So I guess I was wondering if in that case, it might make for a better case to search for recent alums of specific chapters at the school (maybe through my high school's own past matriculation records) in addition to going through a regional network, so that I could have somewhat of same town and high school connection (and so those who read the recs could be all, "Oh, this recommender was a chapter sister!"), as I am OOS. I'm not sure how common this is, however, and I wouldn't want to come off as creepy or anything like that.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by worriedpnm

I think I could have that pinned down (very good friend at other school who's in a sorority that allows collegian recs) for one sorority, but it seems like for others, I'd have to look for recs from those who don't know me personally.

The second best rec comes from someone who knows someone who knows you personally. For example, I have close friends in other NPC groups, and if they are willing to write a rec to their org for a PNM they know, I am definitely willing to write one to my org, because I trust their judgment.

And as you'll see in all of the rec advice threads, you know more sorority women that you think you do, we promise.

[DubaiSis]

But remember, recs are generally not required at Big 10 schools. They can be helpful and if you've got good people to write them, then great. But digging up some rando just so you can have that box checked is not necessary like it is in other parts of the country. If you want to have them for as many chapters as possible I would start beating the bushes to see who you know because you probably know more Greek women than you think. But you're not doomed without them.

[worriedpnm]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

But remember, recs are generally not required at Big 10 schools. They can be helpful and if you've got good people to write them, then great. But digging up some rando just so you can have that box checked is not necessary like it is in other parts of the country. If you want to have them for as many chapters as possible I would start beating the bushes to see who you know because you probably know more Greek women than you think. But you're not doomed without them.

Thank you As an out-of-stater, do you think it would be more strategic to beat the bushes around the area my college is in rather than around home? Greek life is big in my area, though not my family, and you're definitely right in saying I probably know more Greek women than I think. I think I'm just worried it would probably be a weaker "know" anyway around home, like so-and-so from history's mother.