Rushed for the second time and didn't get a bid

[clemsongirl]

Originally Posted by elizey7

Hey guys,

So last week was rush week. It was my second time rushing, and, all I can say is I felt less nervous than I did the first time. However, I didn't get a bid, and I'm trying to figure out why. On my application, I listed all 20 organizations I volunteered with over the summer and in the fall, all three clubs I was involved with on campus, and when asked why I was rushing, I was honest and said that I wanted the feeling of a true second family, and lifelong friends; friends who would stalk me to my first date with a guy, friends who would help my future boyfriend/fiancee an awesome proposal, friends who would help me pick out my wedding dress, throw me a bridal shower and baby shower. Does any of that sound too good to be true or too rehearsed, because it is really and honestly what I want, so maybe there's just a better way to rephrase it for next time?

Thanks

I've got two words for you: too much. 20 organizations is absolute overkill and makes it look like you're trying way too hard to get them to be impressed by your volunteering. It's much more impressive to see someone put a lot of their time and effort into a handful of groups than running around from place to place to get everything on your resume. The same idea applies for college applications, if that helps: a school would rather see a student with deep involvement and commitment to a handful of organizations than very superficial involvement in many.

All of your reasons for rushing are not only very boy-centric but also sound very forced. If you'd stopped your reasons at "I wanted the feeling of a true second family and lifelong friends", you would have come off as much more authentic than listing the perfect life with men and how your future sisters would just slot nicely right in. When I'm deciding if I want a girl to be my sister I don't think about whether she can help me score a hot date but whether I'd want to spend time with her as a person.

Honestly, we won't ever know exactly why you didn't get a bid, but if this is how you're coming off to this chapter then maybe you should look at brushing up on your interpersonal skills and rewording how you explain your interest.