re-reushing as a sophomore transfer and terrified

[jolene]

So you got bids from two different sororities two different times and now you're trying to give it a third try? Just trying to understand.

[Katmandu]

Honestly, whether or not you can rush at OSU is not the primary question I believe you should be asking. Rather, I would spend some time inwardly, asking yourself why, having been offered bids at not one, but TWO sororities on your Big Ten campus, you didn't like either one. That doesn't bode well for potential number three. One was too social, one not special enough. Like Goldilocks, you are looking for the one that is "just right".

NO sorority chapter is always just right and none are perfect fit every day. It's like a big messy family--sometimes you pinch yourself because you can't believe you are lucky enough to belong to such an awesome clan, and other times you just wish they would all take their baggage to another station and leave you the hell alone. Chapters change and evolve each year, especially at big schools with larger classes, as each new class is initiated and seniors move on. You yourself will change, and what you feel about your chapter as a new member will not be what you feel as time goes on. No one can predict what that will be, and no chapter is going to offer you a fairy tale experience, especially as a second semester sophomore transfer student. It's just not.

What it will offer is a chance to meet new people, work hard, be involved with people and issues and events that you might not ordinarily experience, and through that process, grow as a woman. If you aren't looking for that, don't try for bid # 3.

[DubaiSis]

I do not have high hopes for you. And not because your chances for placement are bad - you've proven you can get a bid - but because you can't be made happy. You have Unicorns Pooping Rainbows Syndrome and no sorority or group of women or group of friends can live up to the standard you have set. You are first and foremost choosing a group of FRIENDS. I don't know about you, but I have friends who are varying levels of pretty, smart, successful, etc. If I dumped them as soon as they showed themselves to be human I would spend a great deal of time alone.

[xibair]

[ I don't know about you, but I have friends who are varying levels of pretty, smart, successful, etc. If I dumped them as soon as they showed themselves to be human I would spend a great deal of time alone.[/QUOTE]

Amen Sister.

No matter how smart, talented, rich, or cool you believe you are, how you treat people tells all. Integrity is everything. (quoted by inspire.)

[kooklaa]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

I do not have high hopes for you. And not because your chances for placement are bad - you've proven you can get a bid - but because you can't be made happy. You have Unicorns Pooping Rainbows Syndrome and no sorority or group of women or group of friends can live up to the standard you have set. You are first and foremost choosing a group of FRIENDS. I don't know about you, but I have friends who are varying levels of pretty, smart, successful, etc. If I dumped them as soon as they showed themselves to be human I would spend a great deal of time alone.

I didn't "dump" anyone. They woman in both houses all had wonderful characteristics, but that doesn't mean that we meshed well and would make great sisters. I realized that and that's why I dropped. I'm not saying they aren't good people with redeeming qualities. We just didn't click as friends, something realized in both ends

[ConfettiCupcake]

Originally Posted by kooklaa

.....something realized in both ends

There is more to this story. Not that it matters that much I guess if you have decided to really try to make it work this next time, but I have a feeling that they were as unhappy with you as you were with them and that is probably the part of all of this that you need to sit with.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by Katmandu

(Sorority is) like a big messy family--sometimes you pinch yourself because you can't believe you are lucky enough to belong to such an awesome clan, and other times you just wish they would all take their baggage to another station and leave you the hell alone.

This is classic and should be saved for posterity.

[kooklaa]

Originally Posted by jolene

So you got bids from two different sororities two different times and now you're trying to give it a third try? Just trying to understand.

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