What went wrong with your wedding?

[Xidelt]

-My bachelorette party was almost a flop from the start. The MOH, who lived six hours away, declined to come so she could go volunteering with the local dog shelter. I was upset, but I didn't say anything because she lived six hours away and that's a hell of a drive. Then another bridesmaid decided she didn't really feel like going. My now-husband caught wind of it and enlightened both of them to how upset I was and how crummy their reasons were. My MOH, who is a superstar, packed up an overnight bag and drove up. The other bridesmaid came as well, but she and I had a long Come to Jesus about her behavior that night.

Nowhere does it say that your attendants have to throw a bachelorette party or attend.

[3StringedLyre]

Originally Posted by Xidelt

Nowhere does it say that your attendants have to throw a bachelorette party or attend.

Throw it? No. Attend? No. Would I like the women I consider to be my best friends to be with me on the only bachelorette party I'll ever really get? Yes, I would. I wouldn't force them, and I didn't force them. But of the four bridesmaids I had, the MOH and another were considering bowing out, the third wasn't sure she could come at all due to a work conflict, and the fourth is ten years old and lives with my sister (her mom) an hour away. It just hurt a lot. My MOH I could understand given the distance, but the other I just felt like she couldn't be bothered.