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Originally Posted by MU2Driver
What exactly is "brutal" or "vicious" about Ole Miss or any other school's FR? It's a process by which (in this case) 1800 PNMs are rapidly sorted into 10 groups through mutual selection. I am not aware of anything the chapters do to make the process more stressful than it has to be; I certainly don't put raising high school GPA requirements into that category.
I agree that tent talk and rumors are a bad thing, but that comes from the PNM/moms side, not the chapters. To the contrary, with the advent of RFM, the "system" is doing everything it can to find everyone a home and nearly every girl who meets the minimum requirements, keeps an open mind (PNM tunnel vision is the real problem) and works within the system, i.e. maximizes options, does so.
I have seen many Bid Days at Ole Miss and the vast majority of NMs are experiencing pure joy. And, most of the few that aren't quickly learn to love the house they join.
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This. It's brutal because the girls are facing the first rejection of their tender young lives. And try as we might, the process gets turned into a horse race where there is a winner and a loser chapter with the rest falling into a clearly delineated line. The tent talk is deadly because the girls are told the order and feel desperate to get into the one deemed #1 this year.
We try until we're blue in the face to tell them that none of it is real and the day after rush all of that ranking and winners/losers evaporates. But they don't listen and are devastated when somebody's #1 cuts them. The good news, at this school at least, is while the girls are devastated and cry to their mothers, they aren't really dropping out. We know this because of the incredible numbers at this school. So it's lots of pearl clutching and gnashing of teeth, but they seem to be getting on board and accepting their lots. Which is good because all of these chapters are strong. And they find this out a few days after rush is over and they are so so so thankful they got what they did.
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