I think I'm messing up rush. (U of Washington)

[33girl]

If the only reason you want to join a fraternity is to meet girls, then don't bother. No one likes to be used, including fraternities.

Yes, you should be introducing yourself to members of the fraternity and other rushees.

Yes, it would be VERY weird to offer to set up for a party when you are not a member. That would be like going into a clothing store and changing the displays when you are shopping.

And no one on GC is going to discuss chapter reputations with you. Find the fraternity that is best for you, not the most prestigious.

[sociallyinept]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If the only reason you want to join a fraternity is to meet girls, then don't bother. No one likes to be used, including fraternities.

Yes, you should be introducing yourself to members of the fraternity and other rushees.

Yes, it would be VERY weird to offer to set up for a party when you are not a member. That would be like going into a clothing store and changing the displays when you are shopping.

And no one on GC is going to discuss chapter reputations with you. Find the fraternity that is best for you, not the most prestigious.

No. I want to join for making lasting friendships. Always having friends around and building real friendships not school friends. I wanna be around guys that I get along with and be able to attend the events that fraternities hold like dances and socials. If that's a bad reason then I'll just stop rushing. I listed those things about girls as benefits to help my current situation.

So during house tours I should be just stopping and introducing myself to everyone? What do I ask? Can I ask how and why they chose this certain frat? Or just stick to major name and year?
I get at parties I can ask ppl for their basic info but mostly concerned with house tours

I'm not looking to get reputations. I couldn't care less about being in a certain teir frat. I was hoping people could recommend a house based off interests. Like check out x fraternity if you're into sports or such.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by sociallyinept

No. I want to join for making lasting friendships. Always having friends around and building real friendships not school friends. I wanna be around guys that I get along with and be able to attend the events that fraternities hold like dances and socials. If that's a bad reason then I'll just stop rushing.

I'm not looking to get reputations. I couldn't care less about being in a certain teir frat. I was hoping people could recommend a house based off interests. Like check out x fraternity if you're into sports or such.

If you're in the fraternity, you'll be able to attend mixers. No one is going to make you stay home.

And saying "x fraternity is the jocks" IS a reputation. You should be able to talk to them and figure out if you have common interests.

[NWguy]

There are 31 fraternity chapters at UW, so there's something for everyone.

Yes, you should be socializing when attending events at the fraternities; that's why they call them social events. Don't wait for them to talk to you, introduce yourself and open a conversation.

Whatever is important to you, whatever criteria will help you in deciding which chapter to join, then be sure to ask those questions. For me, academics were most important, so I asked about GPA requirements, study hall, etc.

The Greek community at UW is a very good one, not to mention Greek Row itself is somewhat unique to other colleges in that all of the national fraternity and sorority chapters are concentrated in a 6-by-6 block radius. It is a blast to live there.

I would go to the UW IFC website to research the various fraternities, and the chapters' individual websites to see which ones might be a good fit for you. Be pro-active, don't wait for the invitations to come to you.

Best wishes!