When a legacy gets cut, does Mom get a call from her sorority?

[tcsparky]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Y'all are missing the point of notifying the legacy connection. It's so SHE can let the PNM know she's been released by the group because it's felt it would be better coming from her than finding out when handed a list of invites just before parties start. The legacy connection would know - hopefully -better how to broach the subject with her and give the PNM time to come to terms with it. Not to mention it's courtesy to the member who is, after all, our sister. The calls aren't fun for sure but it's the right thing to do.

I'm not missing the point of notifying the legacy connection. I'm just thinking about the privacy concerns of the PNM. While she may be a legacy through Aunt Myrtle, she may not necessarily want her business put out there. She entered into a contract (registered for Recruitment), and how that contract plays out is her own business, not that of family members. I feel that her privacy issues (who invited her back or who didn't) are more important in this case.

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by tcsparky

I'm not missing the point of notifying the legacy connection. I'm just thinking about the privacy concerns of the PNM. While she may be a legacy through Aunt Myrtle, she may not necessarily want her business put out there. She entered into a contract (registered for Recruitment), and how that contract plays out is her own business, not that of family members. I feel that her privacy issues (who invited her back or who didn't) are more important in this case.

There's two sides to recruitment and mutual selection -the PNM side and the sorority side. If Aunt Myrtle turned in a legacy form for Patty PNM then the outcome of membership selection is Myrtle's business, as a sister.