To rerush or not to rerush

[33girl]

Originally Posted by cc94

I've been told the instant 'home' feeling is a fantasy and it takes work which I understand but I've felt a feeling close to that 'now I can breathe easy' feeling at another house during recruitment. Considering they dropped me after 2nd parties, I'm not sure if I should trust my gut and depledge or wait until Big/Little reveal to see if that will help my feelings about my current chapter. I have been dreaming of being in a sorority for many years and don't want to throw away my chance. However, the thought of initiating and spending money on a chapter I'm not happy in doesn't sound far to me or my sisters.
Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

Chapters who are really good at rush make EVERY girl feel like that - whether they feel that way or not. If they really wanted you, they wouldn't have dropped you.

[lake]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Chapters who are really good at rush make EVERY girl feel like that - whether they feel that way or not. If they really wanted you, they wouldn't have dropped you.

Ha! I had to chuckle when I read that. It's similar to dating relationships. When going through a breakup, or if they're suddenly getting blown off by someone they were seeing, some people just can't let go. There are all sorts of hopeful rationalizations like, "Did they lose their phone? Are they just really busy? Maybe if I text them again/send them a gift/show up where they are, etc. they'll know I'm still interested!!"

Instead of "He's Not that Into You" it's "They're Not that Into You".

[SweetTeaParty]

cc94: Let's get real. If you are a transfer student, and you only had ONE GLO left at preference - - you are NOT going to get another chance. Period.

And you say you have nothing in common with these ladies? Well, what have YOU done to try and integrate yourself? Have you volunteered to work at the upcoming philanthropy event? or offered to organize a group to sit together at the next sporting event or offered to tutor someone who's struggling? Have you offered your room for the next all-nighter study session?

You'll understand that REAL friendship comes from struggling together towards a common goal, not liking the same music or artwork. It comes from setting aside preconcieved notions that you'll "Fall-in-Love" with the group and just jumping in and doing all the work it takes to have a successful group.

THEN, you can turn around and say, "These are my sisters. We have worked toward a common goal and struggled to understand each other. And, EVEN if we are DIFFERENT, we can still love each other."

[Katmandu]

I think you should ask yourself, "do I want to be a member of THIS sorority on this campus, or do I want to NOT be a sorority member at all?" Because I believe that is the question. As a transfer upperclass student your options next spring and fall are severely limited, or more realistically, non existent.

If the chapter approaches 75 members or more, I guarantee there are people you will relate to. But if you don't want to make the effort, then drop. Sorority membership, contrary to popular opinion does not magically lead to friendships, connections and bridesmaids. And the reality is the dynamics change each year with graduations and new members. You will be constantly saying goodbye and hello, and will frequently feel more and less connected with your sisters.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by SweetTeaParty

You'll understand that REAL friendship comes from struggling together towards a common goal, not liking the same music or artwork. It comes from setting aside preconcieved notions that you'll "Fall-in-Love" with the group and just jumping in and doing all the work it takes to have a successful group.

THEN, you can turn around and say, "These are my sisters. We have worked toward a common goal and struggled to understand each other. And, EVEN if we are DIFFERENT, we can still love each other."

STP, you need to work for the online dating sites, because they seem to be under the impression that if 2 people like all the same rock groups they're perfect for each other!

[SweetTeaParty]

Originally Posted by 33girl

STP, you need to work for the online dating sites, because they seem to be under the impression that if 2 people like all the same rock groups they're perfect for each other!

Hmmmm . . . maybe so, cos I went to a Rolling Stone concert this past summer, and all the other folks there were SO OLD!!!

What do I have in common with THEM??